Nur Posted September 19, 2005 Posted September 19, 2005 It's interesting how guys and girls think differently. My current boyfriend is also my first, and during the three months of our relationship I notice some differences in how we percieve each other and the world as a whole. For example, when I think of him I think of his personality -- how he acts, what he says, how he says it, or how those things make me feel. He thinks in terms of "us" -- what we do together, where we go, etc. and has an uncanny memory for visuals. Often when we're talking on the phone he'll mention something like, "the third time we went to the lake, when you were wearing..." and I'll have no idea what he's talking about until he mentions what one of us said or what happened. It would be easy to mark off his interest in the physical aspect of our relationship as shallowness -- only because I know him as well as I do can I know better (that he knows and respects me for who I am, and simply appreciates my physical appearance). To be fair, it might be easy for him to think that I am only interested in discussing high-level ideas and philosophies -- there have been many times where he'll listen politely for a while, then say, "Okay, stop talking and kiss me." However, he knows me well enough to know that I find him tremendously attractive and love his kisses. I wonder, though, if it is common for a guy to feel like he wants more of the "action" side of the relationship (my boyfriend has confessed that, even though he finds what I say interesting and listens, he always wants to be kissing me whenever he sees me) and, by the same token, for a girl to feel like she's not getting enough emotional companionship. Strange, how our brains work. Or maybe it's just me.
curiousnycgirl Posted September 20, 2005 Posted September 20, 2005 Interesting perspective and question. When my b/f and I started dating - the physical side of things was HUGE for both of us. Over time that side slowed down - too much for my liking to be honest. I think relationships change over time and much of it also depends on your ages. My b/f and I are both in our 40's and the intensity of our emotional and intellectual connection is really amazing. Now if I could only get that physical thing back!
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