iris1986 Posted February 25, 2019 Posted February 25, 2019 This is going to be long, but I appreciate you for reading. In December 2018, I decided to end things with my gf of 2 years. The last year of the relationship was not good. We bickered back and forth with each other almost weekly. We never had any big serious shouting matches or anything like that though. I grew unhappy because she made me feel like I was raising a child. I could not get her to do important things unless I constantly reminded her. She would make us late for important events constantly, and she would fight with me on every "vacation" we ever took. Anyway, I started to become distant (I believe because of the above statements). I did not show her any affection and really had no desire to. I stopped having sex with her partially due to the fact that I felt like I had lost my connection to her, and partially because I don't have much of a libido. The lack of affection was a huge deal for her and she constantly pleaded with me to start showing affection. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn't. It just felt too fake. This all led me to break up with her in December 2018. We remained in contact as "friends" until a week ago. Last week, she decided we needed to return out belongings to each other because there was no chance of us ever getting back together. Ever since that day, I've been a mess. I feel like I'm finally realizing what I had, after it was too late. I miss her tremendously. I'm lost and depressed. Why am I just now having these feelings after 2 months of being broken up? Why did it take her being "done" with me before I experienced them? Is this normal? Thoughts on our chances of reconciling? I feel like such a failure.
Whodatdog Posted February 25, 2019 Posted February 25, 2019 Re-read your post to remind yourself why you wanted to break up in the first place. If you got back with her, it would be the same thing all over again. People get to be habits; even if they are bad for you, they are hard to break. She filled a spot in your life, even if it was badly. You will get over it.
d0nnivain Posted February 25, 2019 Posted February 25, 2019 Because now it's real. When you were "friends" she wasn't completely gone from your life. It's OK to feel sad, even as the dumper. You miss having a good relationship. Even though in the end this wasn't a good relationship there were parts that were good, or you would not have stayed together for 2 years. Grieve the loss. When you are ready, you can start looking for your next relationship.
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