Is this normal to start needing more space?

[Viva_70]

We're in our 2nd year of dating. All lovey and great so far, but I noticed he cuts me out a bit more then before. E.g. when I wanted to go see him spontaneously, he was all for it, now sometimes he prioritizes his other plans (friends, projects etc). I don't feel a cool off in any other respect, just wondering is it normal to seek more personal space as relationship progresses.

[smackie9]

We're in our 2nd year of dating. All lovey and great so far, but I noticed he cuts me out a bit more then before. E.g. when I wanted to go see him spontaneously, he was all for it, now sometimes he prioritizes his other plans (friends, projects etc). I don't feel a cool off in any other respect, just wondering is it normal to seek more personal space as relationship progresses.

It depends. If you are really involved with each others lives, then it's normal to have a girls/boys night out once in awhile. But it's not normal when you are no longer a priority. What I mean is, if you don't fit into their interests or hobbies, that would be concerning. Now there is nothing wrong with having ME time, but when it starts to look like that are planning things without you more often well ya something to look into.

[angelfire138]

Agree with smackie above. Normal to want time alone every now and then, or hang out with friends/family alone. But yes, if this is a constant thing or becoming a pattern, I'd talk to him about it.

[Viva_70]

Thanks guys. I feel like if I ask as of now I may sound clingy. He still prioritizes me I think... Most of my relationships broke at 1-1.5 years, that's why I'm probably hypersensitive.

[Lotsgoingon]

The fact that you're even asking about this ... means 90 percent likelihood there is a drop-off in interest on his part.

 

I don't care how insecure you think you are, you aren't asking this question out of nowhere ...

 

Now, it IS sometimes true that the person in your position wants a suffocating the relationship and the person in his position finally finds a moment to create normal space ...I'm guessing you're not suffocating him.

 

Just keep your eyes open ... definitely pay attention to any feelings of distance--ANY!!!! In a smoothly-working relationship you and the partner would be in sync through conversation, through understanding what each other is going through ... such that if there is distance, you get why that is.

 

I don't sense you guys are in such sync ... or else you would be having this conversation with him. Proceed, but definitely keep your eyes open. He may have lost some interest.