Poke Posted February 24, 2019 Posted February 24, 2019 Last night my boyfriend and I were driving to dinner and he was talking about what kind of house he wanted to live in and was pointing out various places and I noticed they were kind of big houses and said the bigger they are the more cleaning he would have to do. He pats my knee and said he has just been waiting for the right woman to marry to come along. I just laughed and took it as a joke because when we first started dating he told me he would never remarry after a brutal divorce 15 years ago. I have never been married and at my age didn’t think it would ever happen, but now I wonder if it was a joke or if he’s seriously thinking of me like that? Should I just pretend he didn’t say it or what?
preraph Posted February 24, 2019 Posted February 24, 2019 Well, it came out of his mouth, so that means it came out of his brain and he had those two thoughts: 1) I need a woman to clean my house 2) Maybe this one will do it. 2
Author Poke Posted February 24, 2019 Author Posted February 24, 2019 Well, it came out of his mouth, so that means it came out of his brain and he had those two thoughts: 1) I need a woman to clean my house 2) Maybe this one will do it. He already has someone who cleans his place once a week. Maybe he thinks I will do it for free? Lol, I don’t know he spoils me as it is and I’m just going to carry on and enjoy what we have. I’m secure enough in myself to not need a ring or title. I was just curious what others might think.
edgygirl Posted February 25, 2019 Posted February 25, 2019 Yes he’s thinking about that. Congrats He pats my knee and said he has just been waiting for the right woman to marry to come along.
greymatter Posted February 25, 2019 Posted February 25, 2019 Seems a little insulting to you in response to what you said about larger homes needing more cleaning. I guess he is pretty traditional?
Curiousroxy86 Posted February 25, 2019 Posted February 25, 2019 Don't read into it Talk is cheap Carry on as is When he propose then you know he is serious lol 2
crispytoast Posted February 25, 2019 Posted February 25, 2019 One does not necessarily equate to the other. He could've been responding to the big house comment not realizing that it could make it seem like he's saying you are the perfect woman to clean the house. He's a man, sometimes we do and say stupid things without realizing how can be interpreted. For example, I was dating a girl and we were on the beach and we'd just kissed for the first time (I kissed her in the waves, she swooned, I felt like a boss ). Back at our things I handed her some water and said "you look thirsty" with a laugh completely unbeknownst that thirsty was slang for desperate. Me and my friends would joke like that with alcohol like "you look thirsty mate" or with a joint "you seem out of breath". She got momentarily very pissed until she realized I truly didn't know the slang meaning. What I'm saying is, don't look into it too much. Its likely that he meant nothing by it, and if he did mean something by it, it will only be a matter of time until it becomes much clearer. If you start looking at everything he does like he is slighting you in some way, you might drive yourself a little crazy.
d0nnivain Posted February 25, 2019 Posted February 25, 2019 I think it was a joke, but an insensitive one. Nevertheless, it's subject matter -- marriage -- means the thought came from somewhere. Don't think this was a proposal or that he's anywhere near that. But do consider if you think it's possible that you might want to marry him.
chillii Posted February 25, 2019 Posted February 25, 2019 Yeah , just kidden round l'd say. But eh he's talking about houses and mentioned marriage, never know what could be tickin away in that head of his.
olivetree Posted February 25, 2019 Posted February 25, 2019 I would take it with a grain of salt unless he continuously drops hints and/or has a real convo with you about marriage.
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