thegirlnextdoor Posted September 19, 2005 Posted September 19, 2005 For some reason, this always happens when I meet a great guy. Well, that statement isn't entirely true. It has happened with the three guys I have fallen madly in love with. It first happened when I was 19, then again at age 22 and now at 24. I'm sooooooo in love with this great guy. He is wonderful. Yes he has his flaws, faults and shortcomings, but they are what make him the complete package that I love. Something has happened to me over the past week or so, I've gone crazy. Our love has been very fun, joyous, and caring. But all of the sudden I've been wanting to be clingy, needy and crazy. I've just been acting out of character; I'll cry at a drop of a hat, I'll think he doesn't love me anymore and leave him alone in bed in the middle of the night to sit outside. I'm crazy!!! What am I doing? Why can't I just love him and accept his love in return? Why do I keep running off the men I love? I know that I can save this one still, it's only been going on for a week. So please giving any words of wisdom. I need it.
feejane Posted September 19, 2005 Posted September 19, 2005 Yeah I do exactly the same thing as this. all the time. Been going out with my guy for 3 years now and I still do the same... and for no real reason either. I think it is part and parcel of being a girl. I think you are just afraid of being hurt because you fear you might lose what you cherish so much. Unfortunately I don't think there is any real solution to the problem. Apart from accepting the fact that what will be will be. I think you need to be strong and just stop worrying so much. It is unhealthy and will affect your relationship in the long run. Just concentrate on having a good time and your relationship will be all the better for it. I'm sure you have been hurt before and I'm sure you got over it and you obviously are able to meet other guys alright. If it's not meant to be it's not meant to be, simple as that, only time will tell. Just try not to think about all the 'what ifs' so much and you will be fine.
Author thegirlnextdoor Posted September 19, 2005 Author Posted September 19, 2005 Thank you for the advice. It is very good and sound. Hopefully I can make myself live for right now in this relationship. I have alot of trouble not worrying, so I think this could help alot of facets in my life if I can do it.
Outcast Posted September 19, 2005 Posted September 19, 2005 Irrational worries aren't 'part and parcel of being a girl'. You may be developing or have anxiety issues. You might want to read up on anxiety and how to deal with it.
Author thegirlnextdoor Posted September 19, 2005 Author Posted September 19, 2005 Wow, okay I guess I wasn't expecting that. But I guess anything is possible. Are you female? Your profile didn't say, so I just am checking if you are qualified to say what is or isn't "part and parcel of being a girl".
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