Dente Posted February 22, 2019 Posted February 22, 2019 I went on a coffee date with this girl I know from the library, The date went well but i didn't go for a kiss cause I wasn't getting the signs she was ready. So we texted back and forth which I hate texting but I kept texting her it was long texts which I would rather talk in person. We were talking about compatibility what sign shes is and what I was and she like we aren't compatible, I said well over text you really can't know the person until you go on dates(I text her this) she said I don't know either way we are friends and i haven't seen anything from our date, that makes me not want to see you. Then I text her "Friends? with an emoji that look disappointed then she text me back well i said friends cause we are just getting to know each other. I was like well you're right we are just getting to know each other. So friend-zone?
vinnyfl Posted February 22, 2019 Posted February 22, 2019 You did not jump into the friend zone, you were there already. 2
MaleIntuition Posted February 22, 2019 Posted February 22, 2019 I went on a coffee date with this girl I know from the library, The date went well but i didn't go for a kiss cause I wasn't getting the signs she was ready. So we texted back and forth which I hate texting but I kept texting her it was long texts which I would rather talk in person. We were talking about compatibility what sign shes is and what I was and she like we aren't compatible, I said well over text you really can't know the person until you go on dates(I text her this) she said I don't know either way we are friends and i haven't seen anything from our date, that makes me not want to see you. Then I text her "Friends? with an emoji that look disappointed then she text me back well i said friends cause we are just getting to know each other. I was like well you're right we are just getting to know each other. So friend-zone? Not yet. Ask her out on a proper evening date. Although, you probably have an uphill battle with this one. Her mindset is that she is already looking for reasons not to see you rather than the opposite. Also zodiac signs? Really? 1
Author Dente Posted February 22, 2019 Author Posted February 22, 2019 You did not jump into the friend zone, you were there already. If i was already there why would she even agree to a date ?
Author Dente Posted February 22, 2019 Author Posted February 22, 2019 Not yet. Ask her out on a proper evening date. Although, you probably have an uphill battle with this one. Her mindset is that she is already looking for reasons not to see you rather than the opposite. Also zodiac signs? Really? I'm not asking her again, and if she texts me I'll tell her i'm busy if I can text her later. I'm glad I caught this early before wasting more time. If she wants she can ask me on a date and i'll go if not then that's that suck up the experience and move on to the next. Thank you for your respond.
basil67 Posted February 22, 2019 Posted February 22, 2019 If i was already there why would she even agree to a date ? Because she thought it was coffee with a friend? Did you actually use the word 'date' when you asked her out? I agree with the poster who said that you didn't put yourself in the friend zone - you were never out of the friend zone. Asking her again would be making a pest of yourself. And good for you in reading the signs to not kiss her.
MaleIntuition Posted February 22, 2019 Posted February 22, 2019 I'm not asking her again, and if she texts me I'll tell her i'm busy if I can text her later. I'm glad I caught this early before wasting more time. If she wants she can ask me on a date and i'll go if not then that's that suck up the experience and move on to the next. Thank you for your respond. What do you mean again? Has she already declined a second date?
Author Dente Posted February 22, 2019 Author Posted February 22, 2019 Because she thought it was coffee with a friend? Did you actually use the word 'date' when you asked her out? I agree with the poster who said that you didn't put yourself in the friend zone - you were never out of the friend zone. Asking her again would be making a pest of yourself. And good for you in reading the signs to not kiss her. Ys i did she new my intention.
Author Dente Posted February 22, 2019 Author Posted February 22, 2019 What do you mean again? Has she already declined a second date? Im not going to adk to go out again? But i kinda did and she said she’ll let me know.
MaleIntuition Posted February 22, 2019 Posted February 22, 2019 Im not going to adk to go out again? But i kinda did and she said she’ll let me know. Alright, then let her be. Next time don’t: “kind of ask her out on a date” though. Be assertive with a specific activity on a specific time.
CantGetEnuff Posted February 22, 2019 Posted February 22, 2019 OP, you are the Mayor of the Friendzone. She is not interested. At all. You'll save yourself time and frustration by moving on.
elaine567 Posted February 22, 2019 Posted February 22, 2019 Next time don’t: “kind of ask her out on a date” though. Be assertive with a specific activity on a specific time. Women are not mind readers and some are not that confident about their own ability to attract men, so wishy washy invites can be misinterpreted as a sign of lack of interest or a meet up as just friends.
smackie9 Posted February 22, 2019 Posted February 22, 2019 (edited) She's just giving you the we are friends for now, which is a time wasting IMO. You want someone who IS into you,...hot like french fries out of the fryer. Edited February 22, 2019 by smackie9
Juha Posted February 22, 2019 Posted February 22, 2019 Do yourself a favor and ignore this girl. She is not interested in more than friends. Delete and move on from her. You will not want her in your life since you like her as more. Respect yourself and move on, never contact this girl again. IF she contacts you talking like your friend tell her "I do not want to be just friends, if you are not interested in dating me then it's best if we don't know each other. IF you change your mind get in touch" Then move on and never bother with her again. 1
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