he's not looking for relationship

[Highroller107]

Whenever a man says he’s not looking, it’s code for he doesn’t want one with you. I never believe when a man says this. In the past. I’ve had 2 guys tell me he’s not “looking” and I believed in that crap. Then a few weeks later, they were active on their dating site, updated their profile picture, looking for dates. And one guy even wrote on his profile and that he “wasn’t looking for a relationship” but if something “amazing” came along his way, he would drop what he was doing, and pursue her. Well, guess what? I wasn’t amazing to him even though it seemed like we were a couple that rat bastard even cooked dinner and still I wasn’t a gem in his eyes. Explains why I’m angry all the time why I hate men

[edgygirl]

He’s using you as a fill in space until a girl he does see as relationship material comes along. Run Lola Run!

 

The best chance if any is to break up this non relationship and maybe he’ll realize you’re it. Although I doubt it. Sorry to be blunt but it’s better to understand the situation. He won’t suddenly WANT a relationship just because you’re there behaving as a good girlfriend.

[spiderowl]

Yes, definitely walk away or spend a lot less time with this guy. If he is not looking for a relationship with you, then he should not have all your time and attention. Date other guys - you are not in a relationship so you are free to do so.

 

I don't know how much you like this guy. He might be relationship material eventually, who knows? He won't be if you are there for him at the drop of a hat. You need to be elusive and show him you are free to spend time with others. Let him think hard about whether he wants to be in a relationship or not, but ration your time with him. You could be getting more and more involved with someone who might turn around in a couple of years and say 'I don't want to be in a relationship' - how would that feel?

 

You are free, enjoy your time with others.

[Robert]

Seems this was a drive by, thread closed until the thread starter returns.