Misunderstanding or what??

[brokengirl85]

Hi all!! I was chatting with a guy on a dating site yesterday. Here is the conversation:

 

Him: I really like your pictures!

Me: would you like to se more?

Him: yes, I’d love to

Me: would you send me more in return? (And I write my email address)

Him: yes I sure will

 

 

Cri cri he never wrote me to my email address ( I was expecting so since I gave it to him to exchange more pics!) this was yesterday. What should I do? Maybe he didn’t understand???

[Andy_K]

A couple of things.... firstly, he messaged last, so he may well have been expecting a reply.

 

Secondly, your conversation reads pretty much like an online 'pay for sexy pictures' service. You might as well have written "Go to http://www.models.com/sabrina and use the discount code XYZ14 to see more!". If any of your original pictures are pretty/suggestive, he's probably half torn between whether you're real, a bot, or a cam model drumming up business

 

If you want to continue this, do what you said and ask him for his email address, then send him pictures.

[brokengirl85]

A couple of things.... firstly, he messaged last, so he may well have been expecting a reply.

 

Secondly, your conversation reads pretty much like an online 'pay for sexy pictures' service. You might as well have written "Go to http://www.models.com/sabrina and use the discount code XYZ14 to see more!". If any of your original pictures are pretty/suggestive, he's probably half torn between whether you're real, a bot, or a cam model drumming up business

 

If you want to continue this, do what you said and ask him for his email address, then send him pictures.

 

Hummm... he might be expecting a reply? Like what? I don’t know what else to say... I was thinking: “ok, write me there!” But I’m not sure.

 

I don’t think he thinks I’m a scam, no.

[PegNosePete]

your conversation reads pretty much like an online 'pay for sexy pictures' service.

Yes, this!

 

Try writing substantive messages that are actually getting to know the person rather than generic 4 word picture request messages.

[brokengirl85]

Yes, this!

 

Try writing substantive messages that are actually getting to know the person rather than generic 4 word picture request messages.

 

He doesn’t think I’m a scam. Please help with the reply

I assure you he doesn’t think I’m a scam. We’ve met in person in the past.

[PegNosePete]

We’ve met in person in the past.

Then why are you messing around with all this? Just ask him for a phone number, give him a call, and meet again. If he doesn't reply, it's a "no".

[brokengirl85]

Then why are you messing around with all this? Just ask him for a phone number, give him a call, and meet again. If he doesn't reply, it's a "no".

 

Because I’m taking this slow. I prefer to exchange pictures first. It’s been a couple years since last time we met.

[brokengirl85]

Do you think he’s waiting for me upload more pictures on the site or what? I don’t want to insist if he’s not really interested, but he sounded like he was keen to reciprocate with his pictures... please help

[mightybop]

Yep he said he wants to see the pictures. Just send some nice ones, nothing crazy. He will respond or not, then you will know what to do from there

[hippychick3]

So did you email him pics and you’re waiting for him to email back? Or you haven’t emailed him and are just expecting him to email first?

 

Your convo makes it seem like you’re going to email him first and he will respond to that.

[smackie9]

man alive don't people go out on dates anymore?

[Wallysbears]

I'm old because this makes no sense to me. Why not just meet up if you are interested in the guy?

[brokengirl85]

Thanks. I just uploaded more pics to the site and sent him a message. Now he’s supposed to reciprocate by email right?

[kendahke]

Because I’m taking this slow. I prefer to exchange pictures first. It’s been a couple years since last time we met.

 

that's backwards---you've already seen each other in person. He's probably wondering why you're trippin' on pictures when he's already seen what you look like.

 

Yeah I guess you can waste time taking the glacial pace, but don't be disappointed when some other girl moving faster who isn't stuck on sending pictures starts spending in-person time with him while you're inching along.

[brokengirl85]

that's backwards---you've already seen each other in person. He's probably wondering why you're trippin' on pictures when he's already seen what you look like.

 

Yeah I guess you can waste time taking the glacial pace, but don't be disappointed when some other girl moving faster who isn't stuck on sending pictures starts spending in-person time with him while you're inching along.

 

Thank you for your post

[d0nnivain]

You are the one who didn't understand.

 

You offered to send more. You offered to go 1st, yet you have done nothing. He's waiting for you to send more pictures. But if you don't have his email, obviously you can't do that. But since you made the offer to send more pictures, it's incumbent on you to get an address where you can send them. there is no need to post more pictures on the site. If you do that, he will conclude that you are not into him because you are putting out fresh bait to attract more suitors.

 

Especially if you have pictures up & have met, sending more pictures is a waste of time. Creepy guys who want to drool (or worse) over your pictures ask for more. Genuine people worthy of dating want to get off apps & text as soon as possible. The goal here is to spend time together in person not create a pen pal relationship.