new_at_this_confusin Posted February 18, 2019 Posted February 18, 2019 Hi I just joined Im needing opinions and advice please. Ok so over 1 year I meet a guy of a dating site. Things went pretty good we were both relationship phobic. Him more and he is also emotionaly unvailable cause he was really hurt in past( werent we all). We called it seeing each other then dating he stressed over that word we got on everything was great. I could even see he would get really close to me and then literally freak out. Example I am everything he has ever wanted in a woman then he would disappear for few days then back. I got feelings, stupidly told him, he just never mentioned it. I said it to his face he freaked out ran away. I was like ok cool. Two weeks later texing each other I said am I wasting my time. Him I dont have feelings like you do feelings take time to achieve and its to early for that.Me ok cool thanks for being honest bye. He kept texing me for months seeing if im ok he didnt want to hurt me I would hardly answer. Begging me to tex him back. I did then he told me he missed me.We talked we always get on well laughing never had a fight or drama. he hates fights and dramas.dont we all So after we started talking he offered me a fwb stress free situation. I said well it would have to exclusive only sleeping with each other no one else. His reply I never slept with anyone when we were together and I havent slept with anyone since you. I miss you and you turn me always make me horney. I really miss you.Thats how he wanted it to be to. Ok so 2 months later few things have got different, we only hang out I dont want to go out with him just sex. So he wanted to make it a regular thing with me few times a week. Then he started calling me my baby, texing me pics of himself with my name of it saying its my property. Calls it my c**k and my tits and **** are his. He wanted to give me love bites to mark his territory on my breasts. The sex is amazing we have slept together 40 times now and it just gets better and better. he disappeared for few days and I knew he would. I gave him space and now he is texing me again.Theres No one else he isnt a player or a dog. Now his message was as he was sick. Hes better now and wanting to pleasure his lady. Im like what the hell ????? I was married for a really long time and at a young age, so I have no idea on men at all. Yes I have feelings for him and guess it would be great if I won him over and he got feelings. Does anyone have any idea if he is starting to or no just the sex and no feelings please. Sorry for long story
ExpatInItaly Posted February 18, 2019 Posted February 18, 2019 This is just sex. He does not have feelings for you. If it hasn't happened by now, it's not going to. Men who want a relationship with you aren't going to treat you like a sex toy. They will take you on dates, begin to integrate you into their lives and want to be involved in yours. Do not take him at his word that he isn't also having sex with other people. If you are looking for a relationship, you are 100% wasting your time with this guy. He isn't going to be your boyfriend.
FMW Posted February 18, 2019 Posted February 18, 2019 Anything is possible, but don't count on him having feelings beyond liking the sex, don't have expectations. He downgraded your relationship to FWB from dating. Don't expect any upgrades. Don't continue seeing him unless you are satisfied for things to continue exactly the way they are. 1
d0nnivain Posted February 18, 2019 Posted February 18, 2019 The territorial thing would annoy me. You & him are on different pages. Since you only want sex & that has now made him possessive, I suspect he caught feelings as you have lost yours. Tread carefully
smackie9 Posted February 18, 2019 Posted February 18, 2019 He's just frickin weird. If you want something solid, look somewhere else because this situation won't change.
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