Guy flakes less than 1.5 hours till the date

[Pandora2019]

So I met this guy on okcupid we chatted a bit, brief phone convo and then set up a date later in the week. So we were just texting very lightly during that time but anyhoow, he set up time and place the day before but on the day of the date, 1.5 hrs till the date as I was about to head out he sent a

Long, wordy and apologetic text about how an unexpected and urgent work related thing came up and that he wasn’t sure if he would be able to make it so maybe better to reschedule. The thing was he wasn’t gonna be able to find out if he can stay or not precisely until about an hour (which was also around the time of the date).

So I said I could meet meet later in the evening to which he replied and said it seems like he won’t be able to do it blah blah and super sorry about late notice.

 

So I said oh okay, etc I’m free on XYZ day. And he replied saying that sounds great, let me know what time works.

 

Sounds like a lot of BS but what should I do from here

 

ALSO: key: we exchanged a couple of texts on the day of the date but he hadn’t explcitiyly confirmed if it was on. But because he set up the date just the day prior I gave him the benefit of the doubt and just told him I’ll see you later. A few hours after that is when he sent the raincheck text (which was 1.5 hrs before the date time!)

Edited February 16, 2019 by Pandora2019

[GTR King]

If he was that interested in you, He would of agreed to meet on sed day you suggested but if it was legit reason he had to cancel last min, He would of suggested another day...

 

So see how things you u never know if his reason was legit or not

[frankspeci]

You never know. I've had a date cancel and I realized it was just a way to get out of seeing me. I've had someone cancel but we rescheduled and had a great date.

 

Just keep the rescheduled date, but keep moving with your life. Do your work and normal weekly routine, keep meeting other people. You'll find out whether he's for real or not when the time comes. Don't stress over it.

Edited February 17, 2019 by frankspeci

[mortensorchid]

I had someone text me when I have been waiting for almost a half hour at the meeting place to cancel, and others didn't even bother to apologize about standing me up until the next day sending some text like "Oh sorry about last night, this thing came up and I didn't have your number".

 

So ... Whatever the case may be with your situation, let him set up the rearranging of the date, don't push it. If he does reschedule, accept it. But let him do the work to do things not you. ANd if he doesn't? Move on.

[d0nnivain]

Cancelling is one thing. A last minute work thing may have happened. Failing to jump at the chance is a sign of low interest.

 

At best back burner him. If he come chasing after you, pressing for a date, fine. Otherwise, just let him fade away.

[snowboy91]

Flaking so close to the date is really bad form. If a legitimate emergency happened and I absolutely had to cancel a date, I'd give an alternative time right off the bat. Lack of that indicates little interest, I'd probably just not bother unless I heard back.

[c1nderella]

Lol this literally just happened to me today smh. The guy said something came up and had to go to work. He tried to reschedule for tomorrow if I was free I told him I was busy ..then tried to schedule for Tuesday but I work 13 hrs so I told him that’s not going to happen but that it was all good we’ll figure out a day. He apologized and I stopped texting him. Smh. I was the one who asked him to meet today actually so he probably wasn’t interested anyways.

[smackie9]

You know what he's thinking...you told him twice you were busy.....A) you are pissed at the cancellation and basically blowing him off with the "busy excuse", or B) you were busy because you had other dates lined up. Stop texting him was the icing on the cake. I call this the Mexican stand off....you both come to the conclusion it's a lack of interest. You both are waiting to see who makes the next move, so it stops there.