LonelyITGuy Posted February 15, 2019 Posted February 15, 2019 NYC dating is horrible. Everyone is dating 5 people at the same time. No one wants to get married. Everyone is always looking for the next best thing. And for successful professionals it would be very weird to not travel or take a vacation of some sort every month esp for holidays. People are very busy and relationships are not a priority. In my previous life, when I worked in NYC, dating was hell. EVERYONE was flaky. EVERYONE. I hated it. I've read articles about how it is now, and Tinder has essentially destroyed cities like NY when it comes to dating and relationships. Guys are getting laid left and right, day after day with different partners. I have a buddy who works for FDNY and he says the single guys are having a very fun time. (God, how I wish Tinder existed in the early 2000s!)
Juha Posted February 15, 2019 Posted February 15, 2019 I will say it again that if you are serious about finding a good guy to marry move to where the dating situation is not like a big city. I am sorry you can pretty much work anywhere you want now. If finding a guy and marrying is such a priority for you then you have to move or you will keep being disappointed where you are at. If you value money over anything else, like most people in NYC then stay there but don't complain about the dating environment. IF you value finding a man to marry then move away from NYC... What you are doing now is spinning your wheels, people in big cities are not relationship material, it's just how it is. They have been ruined by the dating apps. It is a simple thing. Stay in NYC and be unhappy with your dating life or move somewhere that is better for you. You do not fit in to the dating culture in NYC...I have friends there so I know first hand what I am talking about I wish you the best
Author nychic009 Posted February 15, 2019 Author Posted February 15, 2019 In my previous life, when I worked in NYC, dating was hell. EVERYONE was flaky. EVERYONE. I hated it. I've read articles about how it is now, and Tinder has essentially destroyed cities like NY when it comes to dating and relationships. Guys are getting laid left and right, day after day with different partners. I have a buddy who works for FDNY and he says the single guys are having a very fun time. (God, how I wish Tinder existed in the early 2000s!) Yea, maybe the alternative is to move to a small town but then what do I have in common with people there? Anyway, I appreciate the opinions. This forum has been immensely helpful. Have been spending way too much time on the Internet now so logging off. I’ll be sure to update if there is news .
stillafool Posted February 15, 2019 Posted February 15, 2019 The guy just spent $600 on a date. I didn’t want to just show up and leave. I suggested drinks but he wanted to go back to his place. I mostly felt bad ditching him bc that would hurt his feelings and I cared enough to not do that. Men in his position get free tickets given to them all the time but even if he didn't actually pay for them it was nice that he invited you. 1
edgygirl Posted February 15, 2019 Posted February 15, 2019 (edited) So what that he spent that on a date? I’ve had many men buy tickets for shows and concerts and it never meant I had to go home with them. Either go for drinks at a bar or say good night, unless YOU feel like it. You don’t owe him going home with him or oral sex because he spent a few hundreds on a date. Btw you say you’re a germophobe yet you’re ok with oral sex with strangers? Ever heard of HPV? It can give women cancer. High transmittal with oral. I agree NY can be a dating hell. Advice: don’t wait until second date to ask if they’re looking for something real. If it’s not already stated in their profile that they want a LTR, I ask that even before meeting — and also state clearly on my profile what I’m looking for. I think it helps a lot to weed the non-serious people. The guy just spent $600 on a date. I didn’t want to just show up and leave. I suggested drinks but he wanted to go back to his place. I mostly felt bad ditching him bc that would hurt his feelings and I cared enough to not do that. NYC dating is horrible. Everyone is dating 5 people at the same time. No one wants to get married. Everyone is always looking for the next best thing. And for successful professionals it would be very weird to not travel or take a vacation of some sort every month esp for holidays. People are very busy and relationships are not a priority. Edited February 15, 2019 by edgygirl 3
LonelyITGuy Posted February 18, 2019 Posted February 18, 2019 Yea, maybe the alternative is to move to a small town but then what do I have in common with people there? Anyway, I appreciate the opinions. This forum has been immensely helpful. Have been spending way too much time on the Internet now so logging off. I’ll be sure to update if there is news . I'm not saying you have to move to northern Vermont to marry a lumberjack. You can move to the suburbs of NY and commute into the city. It's living IN the city that is killing your options.
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