summerlove Posted September 19, 2005 Posted September 19, 2005 breaking up from a two and a half year relationship, i was wondering if any one knows how long it will take to get over the hurt? or maybe tell me how long it took them.
the_dude007 Posted September 19, 2005 Posted September 19, 2005 someone told me a rule of thumb is one month for every year together...but I don't think there can be a rule for it....just seems to be different for everybody, and how it was handled, etc.
Art_Critic Posted September 19, 2005 Posted September 19, 2005 It will take as long as you let it take. The quicker you go out and start enjoying life and start dating again the quicker it will take to get over the person.
brooke7777 Posted September 19, 2005 Posted September 19, 2005 I think that it is different for everyone. It all depends on the context of your relationship and how much that relationship truly meant to you. Part of it is you and how you handle situations...are you someone that will overanalyze and let things linger like myself or are you someone that will accept things and move on? I'm coming out of a 3 1/2 year relationship. It's been a little over a month and I can day that I don't feel much better. I can say that I have recently been able to focus a bit more and it is not totally consuming me, but I'm still not eating right, still not sleeping right, and I still feel like I'm very on edge and that I can cry at the drop of a dime. Some days are good, others are bad. I think this has been so particulary hard because I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with him. Hang in there...I hope you have an easier time than I am having.
Super89Rex Posted September 19, 2005 Posted September 19, 2005 I hope it doesn't take me too long to get over my ex. Personally it has been a little over 3 weeks since she dropped the bomb; and about a month and a half since the problems began.. But I am feeling a little better each day, I hope it won't take me like 2 years to get over her!! But I get the feeling as soon as I find someone knew who will respect me and love me like she did; she won't even phase me anymore..
Winger Posted September 19, 2005 Posted September 19, 2005 I was with my girl for four years, lived with her for the last year...we broke up a little over a month ago, and it seems to get better each day. Sometimes there are tears...but that was mostly because I had to be around her when I was moving things out. And on a few occasions we got together and had some sweet lovin'. But it's like this: you will have your good days where you think "hey, I'm ready for this...I am going to meet someone amazing who blows me away and we're going to make babies and buy a minivan and have intercourse a lot". And the next day you might think "my ex was everything...I want to get her back". I had one of those crappy days today - probably because I talked to her and because she still loves me. But tonight I decided to go through with NC. I told her I didn't know if I could ever be friends with her, and that I'm not going to be a backup plan. She assured me that wasn't the case and that she needed this time to get back on track with religion and other stuff. I respect that...but still...it's something she should have thought about a long time ago. I am in the mindset now where I'd be open to trying again down the line - so long as we each grow individually because we've been together so long from a very young age. But, I also feel ready to move on and meet new people. So, all I can say is that a few months will probably work wonders. Good luck.
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