He makes me sooooo....

[cherrysoduh]

MAD!!!!

 

So as some of you may have read my H and I have been seperated for 3 weeks. He came today to get the extra bed and some of "his" other things to take b/c he is moving in with a friend. He shows up and asks me what I want him to take, and I'm like duh nothing! I want you to come home. And he said I should have thought about that. So he takes his bed, a TV stand, and some clothes that were still here. But he leaves some clothes and says he will come back for the dresser. Now there is no reason why he couldn't have taken them he had a trailor hooked to his buddies truck so there was plenty of room.

 

He tells me that he will pick up our daughter tomorrow from day care and that I can pick her up when I get off of work. I ask him about the counseling and he says that its just not for him. I am dreading having to see him tomorrow night and the next night and the next night, and every night after that. I am so angry that he won't go to the counseling but there is nothing that I can do about it. I feel like I am trying to get juice out of a turnip...he isn't giving me any hope. Sorry I just needed to vent.

[brngme2life76]

Well hun this is how I look at it. My H says the same things as yours does, counseling is not for him and I should have thought about all that when he was here, yea I should have and I am sorry is all I can say and now I am trying better late then never. As for your H not taking the stuff I have that same problem with my H. I packed all of his stuff and told him to take it to his moms where he is at and he says he will get it when he moves into his other place. I dont get it when he has plenty of chances and space at his moms. He also has stuff here that he could have takin when he took other things that were small, CD's and clothes, I mean come on now you left me take the small stuff I dont need it here and it aint mine. I get so many mixed signals from him I have no idea what to think half the time about or marriage. He tells me he misses me but feels awkward here. Our son and I used to fight and argue all the time because my son is hard headed and wont listen to anything we say, I would yell all the time at him and I realized when my H left that OMG I was horrible towards my son and that pissed him off when I yelled at him. Since then me and my son have made a promise to be better towards each other and so far it has worked out great and realized again how much I was missing by not taking a breath before I got mad right away and how much I also missed hugging my son and saying I love you daily. I have made so many discoveries about myself since he left that I am not that person anymore, NO MORE! I am a caring mom and want to be here to support my H when he is having a bad day or wants to get out and go away for a bit to relax. He will one day see that I am a better person and am willing to go all the way in making my family happy again. I hope you IM me soon I will be home tonight so look me up and I will be here for you too.

[cherrysoduh]

Well girl here is the update on my situation. My husband signed a 9 month lease with a friend, which he says he can get out of if he really need too. I have tried to talk to him but he says he isn't coming home. He was picking up our daughter the last two nights but I suggested that it would be easier to for my mom to pick her up since her house is closer than his. And I don't like driving too far at 10 pm at night. He tells me that he isn't going to change and puts most of the blame on me. Which I am only willing to accept 50 percent of the responsibility b/c in my eyes it was both of us. But right now he is in lala land and he can believe whatever he wants. I am going to the marriage coun. thing by myself tomorrow b/c I have some issues I need to work on for myself and to make me a better person. I love him and care about him but if he isn't willing to accept responsiblity for his part in the marriage then there is nothing that I can do about it right now. Luckily between school, work, and my daughter I have enough to keep myself some what busy. I am going to a partial NC, I can't go full b/c we have a daughter that he wants to spend time with. But I am not going to mention anything about him coming home for a long long time...I am thinking at least a month possibly more. Which is going to be so damn hard b/c I miss him and want him here so much. I am also going to see an attorney on Friday to get advice on Child support and a legal seperation, maybe that will put some heart back into his soul. here is SC you have to be seperated for a year before you can file for divorce. Like I said I will be home later tonight I will try and catch you online. We can get through this...i know it

[brngme2life76]

I am sorry hun. I am thinking of doing the same thing on partial NC with him becasue we do have a son also and have to communicate for him somewhat. But what really bugs me on that is what if someone justs pops up into his life and takes my chances of ever making it work later on, I would be devistated. I do believe him when he says there is no way right now he can add another drama scene on his table with what he has already with me and our son useing us against each other (to make us my son says get back together). He is a strong man but like he says if he was with OW he would have just told me he was asking for a divorce when he left and there is not one now because he would just tell me and get it over with so we dont have this situation holding out any longer and I would not bug him any more which is what I would do, I dont want a man who is doing that to hurt me so I would completly leave him alone. He is just so confusing that I cant think strait about the whole situation, he wants to not work it out right now but does not want a divorce either. Limbo for me. I hate this, I hate it! I want to feel normal with or without him, just normal. I too believe g/f that we can get through this, I know we can. I just wish it was sooner than later.