youngskywalker Posted February 11, 2019 Posted February 11, 2019 I wonder if this happens to all guys or it's just the women I date. It's like it comes up in the first couple dates with almost every girl I see. It's like it's a phobia with them or something. I'm not at all gay and nothing IMO would lead anyone to even question it. I'm not feminine in anyway. Would like to hear others experiences with this. If I'm the only one with this problem them maybe it's something wrong with me. BTW, sleeping with all these girls hasn't been a problem. They're always all over me. I usually move pretty fast if they are willing.
alphamale Posted February 11, 2019 Posted February 11, 2019 there must be something about you that is setting off their gay-dar...think long and hard about what it may be. 3
Art_Critic Posted February 11, 2019 Posted February 11, 2019 think long and hard That isn't it Maybe you are metro in the looks department and that is what is getting the attention. 1
Author youngskywalker Posted February 11, 2019 Author Posted February 11, 2019 there must be something about you that is setting off their gay-dar...think long and hard about what it may be. Not what I was hoping to hear
Wallysbears Posted February 11, 2019 Posted February 11, 2019 If women are asking you this, as in more than one, there must be a reason. 3
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted February 11, 2019 Posted February 11, 2019 I would ask a female friend what she thinks. You don't speak feminine at all? I can think of 4 men off the top of my head who totally come off as gay because of the way they speak, and all are with women. 1
RecentChange Posted February 11, 2019 Posted February 11, 2019 Can’t say I have ever asked anyone if they are gay. If you are getting this repeatedly, kinda hard to deny that you are the common denominator here. Maybe it’s something about your mannerisms that you do not recognize. 1
Author youngskywalker Posted February 11, 2019 Author Posted February 11, 2019 That isn't it Maybe you are metro in the looks department and that is what is getting the attention. If metro, only slightly. Always very gentleman like and I'm often told I have a baby face. What I don't get is why intimacy is never a problem. I mean if I was a girl and thought a guy might be gay there is no way I would sleep with him. Just putting myself in that position and giving my 2 cents.
FMW Posted February 11, 2019 Posted February 11, 2019 Maybe you aren't acting like you are physically attracted to them - not flirting, not touching them at all, etc. Many guys are very obvious with their attraction so it is noteworthy when a guy isn't.
olivetree Posted February 11, 2019 Posted February 11, 2019 The times I've thought a man was gay was because there was something feminine about him - eg. mannerisms, talking softly, intonation, perfect eyebrows, etc. You say you're not feminine at all but I'm guessing you can't see what others do. Ask a female friend or family member. 1
LivingWaterPlease Posted February 11, 2019 Posted February 11, 2019 (edited) They may want you to prove you're not. Edited February 11, 2019 by LivingWaterPlease
Author youngskywalker Posted February 11, 2019 Author Posted February 11, 2019 They may want you to prove you're not. Hey when you look at it that way I have nothing to complain about I'll just keep doing what I'm doing. 3
alphamale Posted February 11, 2019 Posted February 11, 2019 I'll just keep doing what I'm doing. way to go young skywalker 1
PRW Posted February 11, 2019 Posted February 11, 2019 Forget asking women friends. Ask a masculine guy who doesn't like you very much. He'll tell you the truth because he won't care what you think about it. 4
mrs rubble Posted February 12, 2019 Posted February 12, 2019 My son gets asked a fair bit if he's gay, I think it's because he's a "pretty" boy and has very striking eyes. He is definitely NOT gay, like you he also has loads of girls chasing him. I'm guessing your a fairly good looking guy too....this may be why the girls assume you're gay??!!
damni Posted February 12, 2019 Posted February 12, 2019 You may not like to admit it but it is most likely because you have an feminine quality. This may be due to your voice, your mannerisms. Why women are happy to sleep with you? I am guessing you are a young looking 'pretty boy'
toomanyquestions123 Posted February 12, 2019 Posted February 12, 2019 I have a colleague who talks feminine and walks like gays, after a while he announced he wants to get married...to a girl... Turned out he was straight but he talks and acts gay ? i dunno.
chillii Posted February 12, 2019 Posted February 12, 2019 Never been asked that in my life , there must be something . 1
lurker74 Posted February 12, 2019 Posted February 12, 2019 Interestingly, I was asked that very question last night. Here's why. I met a female friend for drinks and apps last night at a local restaurant/bar. I hadn't seen her in a year. I thought we were strictly platonic. Drinks got flowing and I was flirting mildly with the (much too) young waitress. We made our way over to the bar (it was dead) and were talking with the bartenders, another waitress, our waitress, and the owner. I apologized to our waitress because us moving was getting her cut so I offered to buy her a drink off shift. Turns out my flirting with the waitress was working as she got touchy-feely. And then I noticed my friend getting touchy-feely with me too and thought..oh no. My friend asks why I never hit on her and I realized in that moment that I just got blocked. I could not hook up with waitress while my friend was going after me, so I just shut everything down. But the wait staff noticed Ms. Waitress touching me and me not responding...repeatedly. Eventually, our waitress and another asked if I was gay because otherwise why would I not be trying to hook up with Ms. Waitress? So it could be that until you "move fast" you are not putting out the typical hetero guy vibes of escalating the date, making them think you're not interested. Yet you are still there. Or it could be the skinny jeans.
PRW Posted February 12, 2019 Posted February 12, 2019 Turns out my flirting with the waitress was working as she got touchy-feely. And then I noticed my friend getting touchy-feely with me too and thought..oh no. My friend asks why I never hit on her and I realized in that moment that I just got blocked. I could not hook up with waitress while my friend was going after me, so I just shut everything down.You misinterpreted that one and blew it. You weren't being blocked. Exactly the opposite was happening. In creating a little sexual tension with the waitress you also created the same sexual tension with the one you were with and she started to compete with the waitress. You had it in the palm of your hand and let it slip away. Blocking is when someone just gets in the way either on purpose or because they don't know any better. So if anything your friend was blocking the waitress, not you.
chillii Posted February 12, 2019 Posted February 12, 2019 (edited) So it could be that until you "move fast" you are not putting out the typical hetero guy vibes of escalating the date, making them think you're not interested. Yet you are still there. Or it could be the skinny jeans. Yeah , admittedly but it's a different sitch , l've felt the odd what to me was just a friend , wondering over the years . l've always thought wth is wrong with you woman don't you realize we're just friends because there's nothing else there anyway. That shyts too weird. Edited February 14, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator quote edited
edgygirl Posted February 13, 2019 Posted February 13, 2019 A Senior VP in my former company quacked and talked like a duck On meeting him everyone assumes he’s gay. And then everyone gets surprised when they find out he’s married to a... woman. It was mainly his voice and way of talking. From looking at him you wouldn’t think he’s gay. But once he opens his mouth...
bathtub-row Posted February 13, 2019 Posted February 13, 2019 It almost never occurs to me to wonder if a guy is gay. It’s just not something that’s on my radar. I’ll often discover by accident that some actor I really like is gay and then when I think about it, I go, “Oh, yeah, I can see that.” The only time I ever pick up on it us when a guy acts gay in a blatant manner. I dated a guy once who made a comment that caused me to think he was bi and I was immediately turned off and never went out with him again. My guess with you is that you’re pretty and women are attracted to you but wonder if you’re hiding something, or you may be very soft spoken, or both. In that case, you don’t need to worry - lots of women are drawn to that.
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