dave77nc Posted September 18, 2005 Posted September 18, 2005 Ok, here goes. I am 28 years old. I have recently started attending Church and the Bible study. The primary purpose I go there is to serve God, and at the same time would welcome an opportunity to meet some nice Christian girl. Today, we had a new student who is very cute, who joined our singles bible study. Again, I dont mean to turn this into a pick up game, but i briefly chatted with her outside right before we went into the service. asked her few questions as to where she lives, what does she do, whether she is new to area. I tried to be as least obvious about this as possible, cause you dont wanna come off too strong, especially in Church, not to send the wrong message. Outside of church, i would have asked her out, but this time i just told her i would see her later. She seemed to be rather shy too, and maybe thats how they are supposed to be in Church Anyway, one thing is for sure is that she is single, and why else would she come to a singles class other than to meet some nice guy like myself (just kidding), plus she mentioned she is the only single among her friends. My question is, I dont know how to proceed? Should I just ask her to get lunch with me after service or just see her for next couple Sundays and then ask her out. I dont want to come off too strong on this, yet i am clearly interested in her. Not sure if she is, but she seems very nice.... I have not asked anyone out in Church, yet i know that thats how christians meet, in Church... any advice, please help ! thanks and God bless!
BonneChatte Posted September 19, 2005 Posted September 19, 2005 Some people would say make your move now before someone else does. However, I think you should hold off for a couple weeks. Showing up to any kind of "singles" event is a pretty good indication that she in the market for a man, but by asking her out right away, she may get the wrong impression of you (e.g. that you ask everyone out or are a big flirt…I am of course assuming that you’re not! ). Talk to her before and after services...get to know her a little better, but keep it light. Try to get clues as to what she's interested in (e.g. music, art, movies, etc.) then ask her out on casual get together. I can't say this enough...it's so important to keep the first date light; that takes the pressure off both people. In other words, don't go anywhere monumentally expensive, flashy or overtly romantic as it may make her feel as though you're expecting something in return (if you know what I mean). By waiting, you have a better chance of building anticipation on her end, and you'll have already gotten to know each other better...making conversation easier. Good luck!
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