BettyDraper Posted February 11, 2019 Posted February 11, 2019 She’s only known me for barely a month, so giving her a full bouquet of flowers will just send the wrong message. If she was my girlfriend obviously I would do that, but I disagree with you wholeheartedly There’s nothing wrong with sending a small bouquet of flowers to a woman you’re interested in. What about Edible Arrangements? Those are delicious and different. 1
guest569 Posted February 11, 2019 Posted February 11, 2019 I vote for asking her out for ice cream, and whichever gift you decide on (chocolate or a rose is nice) it’s light and casual but shows you’re thinking of her. If anything, I think a card might be too much. Maybe just a note with the gift “happy Valentine’s Day! - name”
Gretchen12 Posted February 11, 2019 Posted February 11, 2019 Hey it's Monday already. If you're gonna ask her out, do it soon. She might make other plans. Don't bother asking her out the day before for Valentines day. And if you're just going to call her evening of valentine's day, she may be out and not able to take your call. Also, you calling her and making a future date is not a gift to her. Giving her flowers or candy is something that would make you happy (pleasure of giving). If not then don't do it. Are you wanting to do something nice but afraid 1. she'll think you like her? or 2. she'll start to like you? Is either one of these possiblities really a bad thing? Valentine's day is just a fun little celebration. Celebrating it is not a declaration of undying love. Don't worry.
Mrs._December Posted February 11, 2019 Posted February 11, 2019 (edited) I can't help but feel that a date ON Valentine's day, this early in the stages of us knowing one another, feels like it comes on too strong and is too pushy for a relationship. Is this REALLY what this world is coming to? You 'know' her enough to get naked with her, you 'know' her enough to exchange bodily fluids with her, you 'know' her well enough that you feel you don't have to worry about STDS, you 'know' her well enough to share extreme intimacy with her as far as sharing your home and bed with her, but HORROR of HORRORS, it's 'too early' to allow this almost complete stranger to share Valentine's Day with you. Whose been giving you such awful relationship advice? This is likely where all this silly game playing will get you. She'll assume you're seeing someone ELSE on Valentine's Day if you choose not to see her that day. That's EXACTLY what she'll think. Edited February 11, 2019 by Mrs._December 1
Wallysbears Posted February 11, 2019 Posted February 11, 2019 Years ago I was dating a guy and we had JUST started dating before Valentine's Day. He went WAY over the top. He sent roses to my house AND to my job and made reservations for a super fancy dinner at a pricey restaurant. I dumped him before even the dinner that night because it was WAY too much. I think we had been on two dates before? It was CREEPY.
d0nnivain Posted February 11, 2019 Posted February 11, 2019 There’s nothing wrong with sending a small bouquet of flowers to a woman you’re interested in. What about Edible Arrangements? Those are delicious and different. The cheapest Edible Arrangement that is not the chocolate covered strawberries is like $70. Wayyyyy too much to spend on a 1st Valentine's Day when you aren't sure what is coming next. It's also too much food for a single person. OP nail down what you are doing already. It is Monday. Do not go over the top. Small, thoughtful & low key.
alphamale Posted February 11, 2019 Posted February 11, 2019 Years ago I was dating a guy and we had JUST started dating before Valentine's Day. He went WAY over the top. He sent roses to my house AND to my job and made reservations for a super fancy dinner at a pricey restaurant. I dumped him before even the dinner that night because it was WAY too much. I think we had been on two dates before? It was CREEPY. I dont' know, some girls may like that, especially gold diggers
Wallysbears Posted February 11, 2019 Posted February 11, 2019 I dont' know, some girls may like that, especially gold diggers Yeah, not my style at all. And sending flowers to my job? Creepy. I don't like that in general, but especially not from someone I went on a few dates with .
BettyDraper Posted February 11, 2019 Posted February 11, 2019 Is this REALLY what this world is coming to? You 'know' her enough to get naked with her, you 'know' her enough to exchange bodily fluids with her, you 'know' her well enough that you feel you don't have to worry about STDS, you 'know' her well enough to share extreme intimacy with her as far as sharing your home and bed with her, but HORROR of HORRORS, it's 'too early' to allow this almost complete stranger to share Valentine's Day with you. Whose been giving you such awful relationship advice? This is likely where all this silly game playing will get you. She'll assume you're seeing someone ELSE on Valentine's Day if you choose not to see her that day. That's EXACTLY what she'll think. I agree. Unfortunately, modern dating is about instant gratification with minimal commitment or investment in a relationship. Quick sex without any commitment is the norm. Nowadays, men expect women to sleep with them without even taking us out on dates. Women are partly responsible because we have been fooled into thinking that being easy is empowering.
BettyDraper Posted February 11, 2019 Posted February 11, 2019 The cheapest Edible Arrangement that is not the chocolate covered strawberries is like $70. Wayyyyy too much to spend on a 1st Valentine's Day when you aren't sure what is coming next. It's also too much food for a single person. OP nail down what you are doing already. It is Monday. Do not go over the top. Small, thoughtful & low key. I guess it all depends on income level and level of generosity. If $70+ is too much to spend, then the OP can always go with a nice box of chocolates and a card.
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