mortensorchid Posted February 9, 2019 Posted February 9, 2019 I connected with this guy on a dating website. We were chit chatting through texts and he said he wanted to meet today. He loves quite a distance from me, I looked it up, so I thought we should arrange for a good in between place to meet. While research hing some possible locations, he started texting me saying he wanted to be sure that this is what he was looking for. I asked what he meant by that, he said didn't you read my profile? I went to his profile and refreshed myself on it - it was a long diatribe about how he relocated from another state to be with some woman and she stiffed him. He said he would only be interested in a serious minded woman who won't play games, dedication, etc. Something about the wording and the endless ranting on this profile did not appeal. Let's face it, most everyone just looks at the pictures to begin with. I texted back to him some constructive criticism- no matter what the situation is it's best not to lay everything out on the table immediately like this. Whether it's good or bad things. He said he believes in truth. I said truth is fine but this is a bit much and overwhelming for people. At least for me it is. Then he said he didn't think we should pursue this any further because I am afraid of my own shadow. I texted back I'm sorry to hear that, I hope he finds what he's looking for. Think I dodged a bullet there.
Art Anderson Posted February 9, 2019 Posted February 9, 2019 You did. I've been virtually screamed at in all caps, lectured on my attire and manners (by a Grade 3 school teacher of course), given a rundown on what their daughters and sons have been arrested for, who (by name and town) their ex is boning now - all with just preliminary online exchanges. In real life I've met for coffee with a few 'bunny boilers' that got triggered between the time they let me have my tongue back from a first kiss, to when I was home and seeing an email waiting in all caps for 5 paragraphs of what's wrong with me, and on and on. I think this site should break out sections for "Online Near Misses" and especially one for "Workplace Romance" Keep ducking
Lotsgoingon Posted February 9, 2019 Posted February 9, 2019 Someone includes a diatribe against ex on profile ... they are clearly not past the ex. Skip these folks. Rule #1 of online dating profiles ... or frankly dating ... do not bring up ex in early dates ... no need to ...
Happy Lemming Posted February 9, 2019 Posted February 9, 2019 Someone includes a diatribe against ex on profile ... they are clearly not past the ex. Skip these folks. 100% Agree... Unless you want to take the brunt of his anger towards his ex and be his therapist for the next six months, I'd say "NEXT". And yes, you dodged a bullet.
chillii Posted February 10, 2019 Posted February 10, 2019 Yeah , l think all you can do is accept that downside and try to take them with a grain of salt. On my very brief stint , one chick sent me this mile long text one night abusing the hell out of me accusing me of being a con artist, scammer and a few dozen other things. Turned out she apparently saw me on fb under a different name and different everything. Ahh , there was only one small hitch, sorry love l'm not even on fb. And an adios to you , have a nice life.
Highndry Posted February 13, 2019 Posted February 13, 2019 I think you need to dial it back a bit. You seem pretty rigid, harsh, etc. That's going to turn a lot of guys off. Maybe relax a little, actually go on some dates, and see what you find. I've never heard of a woman having this many bad interactions with men, and you start to wonder if the problem may be.... Just sayin'.....
Ruby Slippers Posted February 13, 2019 Posted February 13, 2019 Anybody who uses a dating site or date to complain about their dating woes is a hard pass. A few funny jokes about dating misadventures, fine. Real complaining and negativity - always bad news. These people aren't ready to date and can be unhinged. Avoid!
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