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Hi!

 

I have two questions.

 

Let's start with information. I work at a mall and the owner invites everyone who works there to attend a award called "Løren awards" They announce the winner for example shop of the year etc you get what I mean. After that we eat dinner and then it's a party.

 

1. What should I wear on awards? I don't know what my co-worker are going to wear. But I asked and my manager said that the dress code is nicely dressed. I'm thinking just a shirt and a jeans

 

2. How do I hook up at parties that are work related? Don't misunderstand me, I'm not talking about hooking up with my co-workers. When the party is starting we can speak to other people freely which means we have the opportunity to socialise with the people that works at the mall. That is a good thing because it's not our co-worker. So how do you hook up?

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Dressing nice is business casual. Polo shirt or dress shirt, khaki slacks, and leather shoes. Jeans and sport shoes are not dressing nice. Add some grooming, a smile, confidence and eye contact and the hook ups will take care of themselves.

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Dressing nice is business casual. Polo shirt or dress shirt, khaki slacks, and leather shoes. Jeans and sport shoes are not dressing nice. Add some grooming a smile and some confidence and the hook ups will take care of themselves.

 

So I should wear a suit?

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Where something stylish carried by your store. You are a brand ambassador based on the way you dress. Absolutely don't even think about wearing jeans. Jeans are NEVER dressy or appropriate for an awards event at work. As they say dress for the job you want, not the job you have. So if you have aspirations of climbing the ladder, a jacket is a must. A suit might be too much but it depends on your corporate culture & whether your store sells suits.

 

You don't hook up at this. It's not social hour. It's about being friendly, sober & professional. Do not think of it as fun at all. Behave in a corporate manner.

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So I should wear a suit?

 

No suit, the occasion is not formal, it is business casual.

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No suit, the occasion is not formal, it is business casual.

 

Where'd you get that from? OP said his manager told him the dress code is to dress nicely. I read that as a step up from business casual. While it's best to understand corporate culture & dress in accordance with that if you don't know, you can't go wrong dressing up but you can go wrong in business if you are under dressed.

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Where something stylish carried by your store. You are a brand ambassador based on the way you dress. Absolutely don't even think about wearing jeans. Jeans are NEVER dressy or appropriate for an awards event at work. As they say dress for the job you want, not the job you have. So if you have aspirations of climbing the ladder, a jacket is a must. A suit might be too much but it depends on your corporate culture & whether your store sells suits.

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My store don’t sell suits tho. Okay so if jeans are a no go and a jacket is a must then I’m thinking to wear suit pants, shirt and a suit jacket.

 

Well you could hook up since there is going to be a party after dinner. It’s a good chance for us to go away from our co-worker and speak to other :)

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Well you could hook up since there is going to be a party after dinner. It’s a good chance for us to go away from our co-worker and speak to other :)

 

What you could do & what you should do are different.

 

This is a work event. Think with your brain not any other parts.

 

Date, hook up, whatever at any other event, not this one. If you hook up at this your boss will see that as a bad thing & fear that you are opening the company to a sexual harassment lawsuit.

 

Seriously. Limit yourself to 1-2 drinks. Stay SOBER! Come early. Make the rounds to be seen by the higher ups & leave early. This is not the event to let your hair down & have a good time. You need to be more amped up, cautious & on your toes at this then you are at work. It's a highly stressful event & if you fail to recognize that you could jeopardize your future.

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What you could do & what you should do are different.

 

This is a work event. Think with your brain not any other parts.

 

Date, hook up, whatever at any other event, not this one. If you hook up at this your boss will see that as a bad thing & fear that you are opening the company to a sexual harassment lawsuit.

 

Seriously. Limit yourself to 1-2 drinks. Stay SOBER! Come early. Make the rounds to be seen by the higher ups & leave early. This is not the event to let your hair down & have a good time. You need to be more amped up, cautious & on your toes at this then you are at work. It's a highly stressful event & if you fail to recognize that you could jeopardize your future.

 

Got it! Thanks for always helping me D0nnivain!

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Where'd you get that from? OP said his manager told him the dress code is to dress nicely. I read that as a step up from business casual.

 

D0nnivain. I just asked my manager and he’s going to wear a shirt with a v-neck jumper. He did not tell if he was going to wear suit pants or jeans.

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No suit, the occasion is not formal, it is business casual.

 

My manager will be wearing a shirt under a v-neck jumper. I think I will go with suit pants and a turtleneck (:

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You can go hook up at literally any other party. Just not this one! Your supervisors, although they will not be saying it directly, will be judging your performance! A hookup will spread around (the word will spread, what did those two do last night), and you will be penalized or fired. In this world where employers know everything you post online, you really should be careful.

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Remember, your employer has the right to do anything they want with you if you do anything that violates their company policy, which also can be very freely interpreted.

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If you have any professional aspirations, or if you at least want to keep your job, these two shouldn’t go together:

 

Hooking up on parties + (work related)

 

The maximum you should do is get someone’s number... for a later date. Even then, you’re opening your company to a lawsuit if a fling comes out if it. Also I agree - stay SOBER. The best thing to do on work parties is new professional connections.

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Dressing nice is business casual. Polo shirt or dress shirt, khaki slacks, and leather shoes. Jeans and sport shoes are not dressing nice. Add some grooming, a smile, confidence and eye contact and the hook ups will take care of themselves.

 

 

 

Please OP ignore this. Or do this and tell me how many hook ups you actually get. My experience is how you dress means absolutely nothing to women, how you look is more important, how big your wallet is, that more important yet still.

 

 

But hey go as a macho dude and maybe you can overcome this.

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Hey!

 

I just came home from the award. Most of the people wore suits but it's alright as long as we dress nicely.

 

So where do I begin.

 

Heidi: She always calls in "Sick" whenever she works with me or is going to work with me. I'm going to work with her in two weeks and I'm sure she is going to call in sick again.

 

Today she was going to work but I had to work for her instead because she was "Sick" She then attended the award which leads me to think that she was lying to the manager. At first I thought she really was but as it went on I had a mistake that she just didn't want to work with me.

 

Also at the party she was always interested in dancing with Alex and took he's hand a lot. Alex has a girlfriend and I don't know if Heidi knows that, but she left me and the manager together. The manager has a girlfriend already. I can clearly see that she don't like me.

 

Alex: Not sure about him but I also feel he don't like me. When we were about to sit down he asked me to move a bit. That means he was sitting close to Heidi and I was sitting close to another person (Yeah we shared table with other people)

 

I took the seat before him so I actually deserved to sit beside Heidi. I know that Heidi and Alex is the person that don't like me too much. It's all good I can't please everyone.

 

It ended up with me moving the seat to Kine because I don't want to feel left out. It was all because of Alex.

 

Kine: She has a boyfriend and was acting super professional. She didn't even drink alcohol and was nice to me. Nothing much to say than that. She went home after they announced the winner.

 

I don't think I will be attending anymore social event from them and I would rather focus on my job from now on. The worst thing that can happen now is that if Kine doesn't like me then everyone don't like me. So I should probably focus on my job.

 

I think my parents would say the same.

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