mdic135 Posted September 18, 2005 Posted September 18, 2005 Alright, few things first 1. Yeah, I'm 15, but I am having a really hard time, and I am looking anywhere I can to get some help. 2. Yeah, I know, most of its just high school drama...but...I'm starting to think it could affect me in the future... Anyway, aside from that...here's the story. I'm the kind of guy who will do anything to make people happy, to solve their problems, even if I know they are meaningless, just so they won't be sad. And this is what they expect of me, everytime they see me to just be that person, to be smiling and laughing...but still, for some reason...people still like the kids who are self centered a**h***s, and end up just being asses to me...and remember, these are the people I help on practically a daily basis...and now this girl I've like for a long time, and she knows but never liked me...is getting depressed over some ass of a guy, and its my problem to fix...and to be honest I'm getting sick of it all, sick of being there for everyone, whereas when I need help, nobody gives a crap, and sick of these guys who don't deserve anyone, but somehow get everyone...I really just can't do it anymore Yeah...so...yeah
pamos Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 Just because your 15 doesnt mean your problems are menial in anyway. I have to agree with you though the guys that are popular and seem to get the girls are usually asses. Maybe women learn young to be attracted to asses. All I know is that when you get older you are they guys that those same women will be looking for , and as far as those other guys-they'll probably be pumping your gas or taking your order at the drive thru. If you can make it through high school unscathed I think you will find when you get to college the girls will be a little different. But flip it around-do you notice the average girl at your school or just the real HOT ones??? It works both ways. I have a 14 year old son that just started high school and he would probably be described as "geeky". I luv that!!! I have the best relationship with him. I asked him if there were any girls he liked or that liked him and he said "mom, girls only like me as a friend." I felt sad when he told me that but then I also said there maybe girls that like you and say the same thing. If your sick of giving advice tell them you will start charging for it, or just shrug and dont say anything, after awhile if you give them no response they will stop asking. Just try to concentrate on going out and having fun, but not necessarily hooking up with someone specific. You might find a couple of quieter girls that would love to get some of your attention in some not so obvious places. Good Luck-its only 4 years of your life but I would go back in a second!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Toni_no12002 Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 You will always find situations like this.I think you should carry on trying to help people but at the same time stick up for yourself dont let everyone walk all over you.This girl is upset.You want to help but has she ever been there for you?If the answers no then she cant be a real friend.Loose all the people that are not worthy of your help.I had people always come to me for advice but if i had a problem it didnt matter.You need to loose these type of people.There all about theres selves.Spend some time on you for a change and stop worrying about everyone elses problems. If someones nasty to you ignore them.Or stick up for yourself.They only do it because they know they can!And you let them!
hillman Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 Firstly, don't worry yourself too much. I can definately associate with your problem! It used to get me down... its said so often that nice girls always go for a**h***s. I then met a girl who was going out with an a**h***, and then found out that she was cheating on him. She seemed really upset on the bus that evening, and as I was the only person in her year on the bus she told me about it - think she just wanted to get it off her chest. I just listened and tried to comfort her a bit, and the next morning she thanked me for listening to her, and told me that it was nice to find a guy who actually listened! That was the start of a relationship that lasted about 6 months. The other problem with being a thoughtful guy rather than a self-centred git is that you often find yourself feeling uncertain (see my post in Dating titled "university neighbour") as to what to do for the best.
hillman Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 I then met a girl who was going out with an a**h***, and then found out that she was cheating on him. QUOTE] OOPS - sorry... meant that "she found out that he was cheating on her". Perhaps it might make more sense now??
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