HiCrunchy Posted February 7, 2019 Posted February 7, 2019 How do I utilize this platform to maximize the chance of meeting an SO? Has anyone ever gotten their SO from using Meetup.com?
nospam99 Posted February 7, 2019 Posted February 7, 2019 How do I utilize this platform to maximize the chance of meeting an SO? Has anyone ever gotten their SO from using Meetup.com? Not me. I've been on meetup for over 6 years though the last meetup I actually attended was in Sept or Oct. Me and three nice old ladies (not much older than me and fairly active - it's a hiking meetup). In my experience the women might as well be other guys. I've rarely seen any sparks among any of the people except those who attend as a pair with their existing SO.
d0nnivain Posted February 7, 2019 Posted February 7, 2019 I got some dates from MeetUps. I met my husband at a business card exchange. Anything you can do in real life that enables you to enlarge your circle & meet new people is a good thing.
alphamale Posted February 8, 2019 Posted February 8, 2019 I've run a meetup group where we go to different restaurants for 10 years. We have a lot of singles, I would guess that 75% of my attendees are single women. These ladies love to go out, many of them are professionals. I'm doing a dinner that is coming up at a French restaurant and it is ALL women, not even one guy signed up. It could be cause the restaurant is upscale and men hate to spend money on an expensive meal. I don't know why that is. I introduce people to other people and I know a number of members have dated and we even had one wedding a few yrs back.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted February 8, 2019 Posted February 8, 2019 I've only ever belonged to one Meetup group and it was a single moms group. A friend of mine married a woman he met in a Meetup group, though .
edgygirl Posted February 8, 2019 Posted February 8, 2019 I guess you have to pick the right groups. I attended a couple of meetups a long time ago for art gallery walks and it didn’t have the right kind of men for me. Something like alphanale mentioned might be better... if you find one where the genders are more equally balanced. I intend to join some business/geeky ones as this is what my preferred kind of men might attend.
mortensorchid Posted February 8, 2019 Posted February 8, 2019 Meetups are good ways to meet people in general, but you have to find the right one for you. And like everything else you have to expect it to have a certain shelf life as well. About ten years ago I joined a trivia meetup group and me and 3 others got on like a house on fire - two guys and his gf. We were hitting up games all across the city for a nine month period and cleaning up on them. Then we lost our mojo, the guy and the girl broke up, and we drifted. The one guy and I are still friends, he moved to Toronto and we talk through Facebook messenger, the former gf unfriended me, and I'm still Facebook friends with the other guy but I never see or talk to him anymore. I went to others and they were ... Not great, so I walked away from them.
fieldoflavender Posted February 8, 2019 Posted February 8, 2019 I was thinking of joining meet up and I am now single - but honestly I wouldn't really want to be hit on if I was just there to go on like a walk or go to a restaurant. So I mean IF There was a spark, but if not, then I wouldn't want it to be a free for all.
LuckyM Posted February 8, 2019 Posted February 8, 2019 Depends totally on where you live and which meetup groups you are in. Singles meetup groups--probably a good chance, yes. The others, who knows? Don't expect much. No luck at all for me and I joined over 20 over the years. None of them worked even for casual friends. They did not last. Members are very unreliable...if 40 say they are coming, then 6 showed up. Example: I joined a political rally meetup. Five people showed up, we stood outside in the rain at night. . I asked the leader--will we meet again? He says, no, what could be better than this? I laughed, it was ridiculous.
Tagalz Posted February 8, 2019 Posted February 8, 2019 How do I utilize this platform to maximize the chance of meeting an SO? Has anyone ever gotten their SO from using Meetup.com? Hahaha what a coincidence! I was posting the same thing! I haven't been there so I don't know how it is but I will attend one in next week. My personal opinion is that it might be awkward as it is normal when you're meeting new people, but general speaking it's a good concept to meet new people
Lotsgoingon Posted February 9, 2019 Posted February 9, 2019 Joining and meetup is no different than any other kind of hobby ... from volleyball ... to dancing ... to joining a travel group. And interacting with people at a meetup (with an eye towards dating) is no different than interacting with people at work, at church, in the grocery store, at picnics sponsored by friends ... So I'm not sure I get your question. All of life is a meetup in the sense that you could meet someone randomly who you really like. Here is the paradox ... going to any activity simply to look for a date ... is a perfect way to ruin the activity ... and to not get a date. Just go and have fun. Fun is good in and of itself. If you attend a meetup only to meet people, then you go to a session that is perfectly good, and you come out thinking you have failed. Just go for the fun ... to find a good activity ... relax ... no need to officially try to date anyone ... if there is someone you have chemistry with, that can build without you working so hard ... And don't underestimate the power of simply meeting "friends." ... Friends have friends ... and friends can invite us to events where we meet other people ... and so on. Go to a meetup because you want to pursue the mission of the meetup. Let whatever happens ... just happen.
alphamale Posted February 9, 2019 Posted February 9, 2019 impt to join groups you have an interest in 1
BluEyeL Posted February 9, 2019 Posted February 9, 2019 I had a 3 month mini relationship with a guy I met at a singles meetup
BluEyeL Posted February 9, 2019 Posted February 9, 2019 what do you mean by "mini" BlueYe? I mean we were exclusive but it was short , only lasted May through September 1
BluEyeL Posted February 9, 2019 Posted February 9, 2019 To add: also, the guy told me that he saw me on match and then he saw me on the list of the meetup atendees that evening so this is why he came. To meet me and see if he could date me. And he did. So it wasn’t an”organic” meet . He planned it.
alphamale Posted February 9, 2019 Posted February 9, 2019 To add: also, the guy told me that he saw me on match and then he saw me on the list of the meetup atendees that evening so this is why he came. To meet me and see if he could date me. And he did. So it wasn’t an”organic” meet . He planned it. and you didn't think he was a creepy stalker?
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