Gutterstorm Posted February 6, 2019 Posted February 6, 2019 So the woman I have been dating has shown interest in me after a few dates, so I decided to try and kiss her. She denied the kiss, and later explained that it was because she still has feelings for a guy that she blocked on all social media 6 months ago. After this guy told her that she needed to work out her issues. Should I continue seeing her, or should I abandon ship? I understand that this is not the best explanation of the situation, so please ask for more details if you feel that would help in making a sufficient judgement.
Interstellar Posted February 7, 2019 Posted February 7, 2019 I’d wish her the best, move on and forget about her. She rejected your kiss and told you that she has feelings for the other guy. When women do that it’s best to listen. 2
Author Gutterstorm Posted February 7, 2019 Author Posted February 7, 2019 I am not sure if it is relevant, but she did say that she "wanted to kiss me," and that she only said no because of the feelings for the other guy, despite not talking to him in 6 months.
preraph Posted February 7, 2019 Posted February 7, 2019 I don't believe her. I think she was letting you down that way. If she was really waiting for him, she shouldn't be dating.
Interstellar Posted February 7, 2019 Posted February 7, 2019 Guy, the male ego is the cause of heartache for all men for the past 100 years. She’s letting you down easy. Wish her the best, and move on. There are plenty of beautiful, unattached women out there.
FMW Posted February 7, 2019 Posted February 7, 2019 I would leave her alone, you're very likely to get disappointed and hurt. Her wanting to kiss you, being attracted to you and enjoying spending time with you doesn't mean she's emotionally available. She's just trying to distract herself and heal a broken heart. Don't be her bandaid.
elaine567 Posted February 7, 2019 Posted February 7, 2019 When people are still involved with or invested in an ex, it is best to stay far away, otherwise it will be you that gets caught in the crossfire between the two of them and you that will get hurt.
BC1980 Posted February 7, 2019 Posted February 7, 2019 That doesn't sound like a plausible reason, but, whatever is going on, I'd move on from her. If she is still so hung up on this other guy that she can't even kiss you, she's not ready to date.
Normm Posted February 7, 2019 Posted February 7, 2019 A thread with unanimous responses, that doesn't happen often. So I'll join in and say kick her to the curb. Assuming of course she hasn't already left.
Author Gutterstorm Posted February 7, 2019 Author Posted February 7, 2019 Thanks for the responses everyone!
healing light Posted February 7, 2019 Posted February 7, 2019 Unfortunately, I think it's best to let this one go. If what she's saying is the truth, she should not be dating. She's not emotionally available nor willing to give someone else a fair shot. If she's lying, then she's still not a viable option. Usually if someone uses another person as a shoulder to cry on, when they are healed they move on to someone else. I think you have no choice but to move on from her.
elaine567 Posted February 7, 2019 Posted February 7, 2019 I don't believe her. I think she was letting you down that way. If she was really waiting for him, she shouldn't be dating. Yes it is a pretty good excuse and one that cannot really be argued against easily. Her: I am not over my ex. Him: But... but... but... give me a chance. Her: I already told you I am not over my ex... end of... we can be friends if you want to listen to all my woes and if you want to spend your hard earned cash on me anyway...
Juha Posted February 7, 2019 Posted February 7, 2019 Delete and move on. Do not waste another second on this woman. Why would you bother to waste another minute on someone who is not interested in you??? I wish you the best
Gretchen12 Posted February 7, 2019 Posted February 7, 2019 That was a rejection any way you look at it. But hey! at least you found out.
elaine567 Posted February 7, 2019 Posted February 7, 2019 Delete and move on. Do not waste another second on this woman. Why would you bother to waste another minute on someone who is not interested in you??? Exactly. Too many people on this forum spend too long hankering after people who are basically unavailable or who are just not interested.
mortensorchid Posted February 7, 2019 Posted February 7, 2019 Move on. She'll be wishy washy on other issues as well. You deserve better.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 7, 2019 Posted February 7, 2019 Whether she's truly hung up on the other guy isn't terribly important, OP. What is important is that her she doesn't have a romantic interest in you. Don't spend any more time on her. She isn't the woman for you.
ChatroomHero Posted February 7, 2019 Posted February 7, 2019 What would there be to gain if you kept seeing her? Answer that honestly and you'll have the answer to your question. You get one hint: Absolutely nothing at all.
stillafool Posted February 7, 2019 Posted February 7, 2019 Keep dating her if you don't mind taking her out and spending your money on someone who's heart and mind is on another man.
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