masaki1085 Posted September 18, 2005 Posted September 18, 2005 There is this girl that I have been talking to pretty frequently for the past couple weeks. Before we went back to college (we go to separate schools, about an hour apart from each other), we hung out twice. Then, for the past three weeks, we talked to each other almost every night on IM. We were both in our hometown last night and we hung out again, going out to get something to eat and going back to her place to watch movies. Anyways, I do really like this girl, and I do want to actually ask her out. I think I am afraid that the answer will be no due to our school situation, but it seems like she really enjoys hanging out with me and talking to me. There is no "touch"-flirting yet, but there's quite a bit of talk-flirting. She never seems to turn down ideas about wanting to hang out and watch movies. She always smiles or gets embarrassed [a good embarrassed, blushing] if I pay her a complement or I joke around with her. Maybe I am answering my own question? I am not going to ask if I should ask her out, but rather, I am asking is she waiting for me to ask her out? She really has made no concrete indication about "dating" me, but she is sending me many, many nonverbal signals that she seems interested in me. I have read that some girls prefer to wait for the guy to make the first move as far as asking out is concerned. She is shy, so perhaps this may be the case. Any advice? Another issue is that we go back to our schools again, too. So its back to talking on IM until we actually see each other again... I usually don't like chatting about this sort of thing on IM because it seems so impersonal, but basically, its all we have until we come from school again. Thanks so much!
BonneChatte Posted September 19, 2005 Posted September 19, 2005 One important question is, how far apart are your schools...are we talking a few hours or opposite ends of the country? If it the former, then you can still see each other on weekends and breaks...longer distances will require more effort from both of you. But if you think a relationship is feasible...then make your move boy! No one wants to be rejected, but for shy girls (and shy guys) the thought of rejection is sometimes more terrifying...so it is very possible that she won't make the first move. If you ask her out and she says no, well what have you really lost? Either way you wouldn't be in a relationship with her.
Pyro Posted September 19, 2005 Posted September 19, 2005 From how it sounds, she is waiting for you to make the next move. Life is about risks. You must go for it or else you will keep thinking "what if" Best of luck to you.
Copingsaw Posted September 19, 2005 Posted September 19, 2005 Assuming what you said is fairly accurate, she is probably waiting for you to ask her out. Most women are smart enough to know that if a guy is making a point to spend time with her, it means he is interested. She probably would have given you some brush-off signals if she was not interested to make sure you understood where you stand. The fact that there has been no intimacy is a negative but if she is indeed shy that could easily explain it. Good luck!
Author masaki1085 Posted September 19, 2005 Author Posted September 19, 2005 She is about an hour away, so I guess it would be pretty feasible, wouldn't it?
Author masaki1085 Posted September 21, 2005 Author Posted September 21, 2005 I asked her yesterday how she felt about making our next get together a date, and she said that it sounded good! I might be hanging out with her this weekend, but we'll see. I wanted to say thanks to you three for taking time out and answering my question. It is most appreciated!
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