hubs Posted September 18, 2005 Posted September 18, 2005 please help i met a girl a month ago that i liked and she contacted me after so i thought she must like me.everything has been going fine we got on well we have met up 4 or 5 times and havent slept together and it didnt bother me thats 1 of the reasons i like her.had a good night out last night walking to get a taxi arm in arm i was looking 4 a bit more attention so i jokeingly said..i give u all this affection and what do i get back nothing.expecting she might feel sorry for me or at and get more kisses out of it but i got the opposite she pushed me away and stormed off up the road.i stood there 4 a while tryin to work out what had just happend and went after her i caught up with her as she called a cab.i tried to tell her that i didnt know quite what i had said wrong and i was sorry but she changed the subject to why i let her walk up the road but as i was tryin to explain 2 her a cab stopped and she was gonna jump in and go i stopped her and asked her not to leave it like this and could i have a kiss goodbye she gave me the smallest peck on the lips and went.i tried to text and ring straight away but she switched the phone off. i looked at my phone this morning and my text got deliverd about an hour after i sent it.got no reply so i sent her another 1 this morning 2 say im sorry but i still havent got a reply.we never ring each other anyway so it would feel even more weird if i was to call her. was it that stupid a thing to say and she is right to not want to see me again or what.i can sort of see that she might of thought i ment sleeping with her but i never even tried to take her back 2 my place on the other dates coz i knew that she wasnt like that.so she should know that i didnt meen it like that. i need an outside opinion from both sexis please coz i cant get my head round any of it let alone know what to do next.
Lishy Posted September 25, 2005 Posted September 25, 2005 I would say this girl has issues! My advice as a woman would be to stop contacting her. She will then have no choice but to think about her over-reaction and maybe she will contact you. If she doesnt then it will show that she wasnt that into you in the first place and you can move on. Girls are fickle at times and i would say that this girl needs attention. If you keep saying sorry she will continue to milk it and you will get no where. What you said to her wasnt that bad. stop beating yourself up over it. Good luck
Copingsaw Posted September 25, 2005 Posted September 25, 2005 I can see how what you said would be seen as insensitive. Maybe she thought you wanted to get laid. Maybe she's not all that into you. Maybe she has intimacy issues and your comment hit a little too close to home. Having said that, I think she over-reacted. There is no reason to run off like she did without even allowing you to explain yourself. I would text her with a message to the effect that you are sorry. Your comment may have come out wrong and you meant no disprespect and would like an opportunity to talk about it. Make sure she understands that the ball is in her court and that you will not be contacting her again. Then wait. If she doesn't contact you, it wasn't going to work out anyway.
mixwell Posted September 25, 2005 Posted September 25, 2005 You should stop apologizing to her... Don't give up your power and act like a wuss bag.. just stop contacting her.. Let her get over her little fit.. She is way over reacting.. if a girl did that to me I would say two words.. F*ck you !! Seriously grow some balls and stop kissing this girls ass.. you already tried to contact her and say you are sorry... its time to stop calling her and let her get over her BS drama and call you when she is ready to talk like an adult instead of a little kid.. PS.. im not trying to be an ass hole but its the truth..
Gottabestrong Posted September 25, 2005 Posted September 25, 2005 i was looking 4 a bit more attention so i jokeingly said..i give u all this affection and what do i get back nothing. Wow, I would feel offended at that too. You 'give her all this affection and get back nothing'? What about her company? It would be different if you had leaned in and tried to give her a kiss. But to demand it? From your post I understand that you both had kissed before, so she does not seem to deny you kisses. And even if she did, who says she has to kiss you? Maybe she did not feel like it? What you said sounds like you are only interested in spending time with her if it gets you some action. Not the thing to say to someone you are dating.
Lishy Posted September 25, 2005 Posted September 25, 2005 Ignore that last thread what you said was a bit insensitive but you apologised and explained what you meant instantly... she decided to milk it and carry on like you just asked her for a weird sex act. You should send her one last text saying she took you worng and let her know you will not bother her again and leave the ball in her court. Be strong and good luck
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