SugarLips72 Posted February 5, 2019 Posted February 5, 2019 I posted yesterday on the guy from POF that suddenly lost interested. He was a great kisser. Over Christmas I met a guy from the app and wound up going out with him a couple times. Terrible kisser and a total turnoff He basically pressed his lips to mine and stuck his tongue in my mouth with no real technique. It was sloppy. I quickly lost interest. I for one don’t think it’s worth even sticking around. If he can’t kiss by now he’s probably not good at anything else sex related. However how do you even bring this up?
alphamale Posted February 5, 2019 Posted February 5, 2019 SL72 - trust me when I say there are also women who are bad kissers, but most bad kissers are men as you found out I haven't had any complaints over the years
smackie9 Posted February 5, 2019 Posted February 5, 2019 If he asks why, tell him. I remember a thread years ago where this lady talked about an ex which she was friends with. He was good looking but couldn't figure out why women were bailing on him. He was terrible in bed..like real bad as she explained. She wanted to gently tell him why these women were dumping him left right and center. He was in his early 30's and no one had the guts to tell the poor guy or confirm that was the reason. So you may get a bad reaction, but at least you put it out there and hope it will help them down the road.
PRW Posted February 5, 2019 Posted February 5, 2019 You could have pulled back and told him you already have a tongue, or ask if he was reaching for ants and thought you were an anthill. On New Years Eve I met some women that I'm not sure if they were bad at it or not. They did the "Sneak Attack". Got my attention, I turned to face them, and "wack" & "run". At least they mostly hit my lips, but no chance to "kiss back" correctly. I'll be more on guard next year, you watch.
alphamale Posted February 5, 2019 Posted February 5, 2019 you could have pulled back and told him you already have a tongue, ... baaahahaha 1
lurker74 Posted February 5, 2019 Posted February 5, 2019 You don't bring it up. There are a lot of bad kissers out there and plenty of them are women. In fact, I contend, based on my limited experience, that good kissers are closer to the exception than the rule. Maybe most of them are average, but there are more bad than there are amazing. That's why on those rare occasions when I meet a great kisser, it's like ahhhhhhh I wouldn't at all bring it up though. It's just like personality to me. When I go out with a woman, a just OK date followed by a bad kiss just cements my opinion. A just OK date followed by an amazing kiss probably gets another date. In that sense, it's like personality...good ones get more time.
Author SugarLips72 Posted February 6, 2019 Author Posted February 6, 2019 (edited) How does not telling him do any good? Just dump him then? IMO the fling is over if the kissing is terrible so what do you have to lose in telling him? I was going to talk to him and show him what I liked next time I saw him but it fizzled out. You don't bring it up.<snip> Edited February 6, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Fix quote
chillii Posted February 6, 2019 Posted February 6, 2019 (edited) If your dropping it over kissing what's it matter anyway he means nothing to you. On kissing , some two people also just kiss differently and just literally can't kiss. You even see it in movies where the two actors just can't kiss , they must just think we're too dumb to notice or surely they'd pair someone up that can actually kiss properly together . But yeppa , then there's just terrible kissers, like it's still beyond me actually why a chick you hardly know insists on shoving her tongue straight down your throat. l'll never figure that one out.Although it has crossed my mind that it could just simply be please fk me. But if she does that it's an instant no thankingya , turns me off so fast it's a goner. Or the face eaters , same. Edited February 6, 2019 by chillii
MaleIntuition Posted February 6, 2019 Posted February 6, 2019 Like most things it probably boils down to personal preferences..?
LonelyITGuy Posted February 6, 2019 Posted February 6, 2019 You have two options: tell him or leave and find someone else. Take it from someone who's been married over 15 years to a woman who's an AWFUL kisser. It doesn't get better and it's depressing af. 1
olivetree Posted February 6, 2019 Posted February 6, 2019 If he asks, you can say "we have completely different kissing styles and that's a deal breaker for me." 1
lurker74 Posted February 6, 2019 Posted February 6, 2019 How does not telling him do any good? Just dump him then? IMO the fling is over if the kissing is terrible so what do you have to lose in telling him? I was going to talk to him and show him what I liked next time I saw him but it fizzled out. You have nothing to lose. And nothing to gain. If he asks, hey, how was the kissing, tell him. But otherwise unless you wear a cape and like to rescue people, move on. But I guess if for some reason it's important to you to tell someone with whom you have no relationship that you think he sucks at kissing, then do it.
TAgate Posted February 6, 2019 Posted February 6, 2019 I went on a date with a guy a few months back and he pretty much had everything - good looking, great job, good cook, super nice, etc. However I remember when he kissed me I was disgusted. I don't want to get into the gross details of it but it turned me off from him completely despite all his other good qualities. If kissing in a relationship is important to you then I say, leave him. Sometimes you really just can't get past that (and NO ONE should judge you for it). 1
smackie9 Posted February 7, 2019 Posted February 7, 2019 I remember having this huge crush on a guy in junior high. One day we met up at the park, and we kissed......he wasn't my crush anymore.
amaysngrace Posted February 7, 2019 Posted February 7, 2019 It’s really mean to tell someone they kiss bad or suck in bed. Why give someone a complex? Just say you’re not feeling much chemistry but don’t criticize someone for something they’ll likely be self-conscious about over and over again. That’s just cruel.
losangelena Posted February 7, 2019 Posted February 7, 2019 You know, my ex, the first I kissed him, he wasn’t so great, but he actually did improve over time, and I didn’t really do anything to coach him. He also calmed down a little after the first few times, so I guess that helped. Anyway, sometimes it can be overcome!
alphamale Posted February 7, 2019 Posted February 7, 2019 on of my exes was such a bad kisser that I would keep a bulb or two of garlic in my pocket just in case she became amorous 2
LuckyM Posted February 8, 2019 Posted February 8, 2019 No problem. Try to nicely show your date how you like to be kissed. Is that hard? Some people just don't know how. If you are romantic when you make a suggestion, this is the way. Show don't tell.
preraph Posted February 8, 2019 Posted February 8, 2019 It won't be taken well if you tell them they're bad . More like wait until for a moment they are not awful and then say, Oh, that's how I like to be kissed. Sometimes it's just two people's mouths or styles clash too. I remember one guy didn't like open mouth kissing. Then one guy I liked, it was something about his lips. They were just kind of not "caresssing" at all, not sure if it's because they were thin or what, but it wasn't what I liked. Someone else might have liked it, I guess.
Tagalz Posted February 8, 2019 Posted February 8, 2019 I for one don’t think it’s worth even sticking around. If he can’t kiss by now he’s probably not good at anything else sex related. However how do you even bring this up? Don't judge too quickly tho! I agree with Alphamale and even women can be a bad kisser. Just teach him step by step how to kiss. As for how to bring it up say "I don't like it when you push your lips against mine, let me teach you how to do it" But only say that when you're kissing. if you're not then it's a bad timing and he might feel he's forced to learn
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