How do I get over my outrageous attraction to ex?

[MrNiceGuy19]

I’m a 27 yr old male who can’t shake my very strong physical attraction to my ex girlfriend. The problem is that we have a daughter together, so I’m forced to see her every weekend since we alternate weeks. It’s a terrible feeling because we haven’t been together for over 4 years now, but I think about her every day and occasionally dream about her. She’s literally everything I look for in a female physically, and we had such an INCREDIBLY lustful 2 years together in which I’ve never experienced such a strong physical connection as that. However, she’s an unstable person and began to become very controlling and manipulative as time went on. I believe the lows intensified the highs. She’s really not a good person, and doesn’t have much to offer in terms of personality, but I just can not shake my physical desire for her.

 

In the time that we’ve split up, I haven’t had a serious relationship with anyone. Only a few flings with girls I wasn’t heavily invested in. I haven’t even had sex in over a year. I’ve put all of my energy into my daughter, working, and other aspects of bettering myself. However, I feel somewhat hopeless in terms of finding another girl I’m as strongly attracted to. Although I’m an educated and attractive male, it’s so difficult dating in this era. Most females I find attractive are extremely vapid and superficial, and the most attractive females are so coveted that they hardly give a guy the time of day. So when you combine their lack of substance and inaccessibility, it’s utterly futile.

 

And I heavily prioritize a woman’s personality traits, but I also highly value strong physical chemistry. I have such a specific set of preferences and it’s difficult for me to become as aroused by a woman if she doesn’t have certain qualities. For instance, my ex has the perfect complexion (for me), perfectly thick lips, very full butt and thighs, big eyes, and thick, wavy hair. It doesn’t help that she’s always dressing provocatively and showing herself off all the time. I know that my attraction is purely physical, and at times I’m able to mitigate my attraction by acknowledging how bad of a person she is, but it always reappears.

 

I should mention that there have been periods of months where I didn’t really think about her at all, but it has never subsided completely and for the last several months I think about her at least once a day and was masturbating to old videos and pictures with her for a while. I’ve stopped doing that several weeks ago and will never do it again, but something has to give.

 

Have any of you experienced anything similar? How did you overcome it?

[traditional]

Brother, my opinion may seem judgemental or not serious, but please-consider using obsession and not attraction. Choice is for every man but have my sincere assurances that sex for a man should have nothing to do with physical attributes, and also good that way-I don't see how you could have penetrative activity with your eyes or ears. Attraction you only use your eyes and ears, the main event has to be with the master drill. You seriously slip sex for a year because of one woman you slept with four years ago. Is that the picture. You complicate life too much.

 

 

Nature has intended for all men to think with their genitals. The best way to think about women-any women is with genitals in upright position not feelings, emotions and attractions or being picky-in other words if you are satisfied that the homo sapien has two arms, legs, a head ,torso, hips and female genitals and is at least breathing and of age then you strike. You get bogged down with emotions, attraction etc. and it leads to mental impotence and eventually Johny goes to sleep also.

 

 

My friend always said his right hand is his best lover, but you need to feel the intricacies and passion of women. Chances are that you may never meet the perfect woman, and you would have missed so many good women that could really love you and give their body to you when and where you want, all because you choose to obsess over physical attributes of women. Please note-it is a choice to be picky.