Sammygirl Posted February 4, 2019 Posted February 4, 2019 My bf and I broke up a few days ago and honestly I do want him back and think there's a chance he could come back as he left it very open ended. He just needed some space to figure out his emotional issues before he can be happy with someone else. Fair enough. I was wondering people's thoughts on a goodbye type text. I wasn't very desperate when we broke up. I didn't plead. I didn't say much. I know it takes a couple days for me to process my thoughts. My ultimate goal is to get back together yes. So yeah I guess I'm trying to send him a message that makes it sound like I'm ok and make him miss me.... I know it's bad but you know. I wanted to send a text that just said thanks for everything. I loved that we did this or that together. It was fun. I hope you figure out everything you need to. Take care. I hope things work out for you. Best wishes. The end Is this bad? What do people think when they get messages like this. I read articles that say it's bad to send anything to your ex but ... I feel it's pretty positive.
BaileyB Posted February 4, 2019 Posted February 4, 2019 Is this the boyfriend with depression, who has told you by his actions and in as many words that he is not healthy enough to have a relationship. Why are you not respecting his wishes? If you must, send him a text that says, “Just wanted to say, I wish you well. Take care.” 1
smackie9 Posted February 5, 2019 Posted February 5, 2019 Oh my gosh, for your own sanity you need to let this guy go. Things will not be right with him...probably never. I know it's hard, you have invested so much, but your energy is better spent with someone else. Remind yourself you shouldn't have to work this hard to have a relationship...and you are still working hard at it broken up. Release and be free. 2
smackie9 Posted February 5, 2019 Posted February 5, 2019 “Just wanted to say, I wish you well. Take care.” This 100%.....
olivetree Posted February 5, 2019 Posted February 5, 2019 I think your goal with that text is to leave things on a good note so that you both feel the door is open for him to come back. I think that when someone returns, it is usually out of the fear that they have lost you for good. So... I don't think that you should text him, and if he's going to try to get back together with you it's not because you sent him a happy goodbye text.
kendahke Posted February 5, 2019 Posted February 5, 2019 I wouldn't say that. You're not going to get the response you're after. He should want to come back of his own volition because he knows it's a better idea than the one he's operating on. As hard as it might be to resist our advice and send it, preserve your dignity and don't.
d0nnivain Posted February 5, 2019 Posted February 5, 2019 (edited) Send what BaileyB suggested because you want to. It won't change anything but you may feel some peace because you did something. Edited February 6, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator typo 1
Normm Posted February 5, 2019 Posted February 5, 2019 He just needed some space to figure out his emotional issues before he can be happy with someone else. Fair enough. It's not fair at all. It's standard dumpers BS that's less painful or something because it makes it about them not the person they are dumping. No different from "it's not you it's me" or "you deserve better" or "I'm holding you back from meeting someone that suits you more than I do". Don't put any hope into it.
rightondude Posted February 6, 2019 Posted February 6, 2019 It's not fair at all. It's standard dumpers BS that's less painful or something because it makes it about them not the person they are dumping. No different from "it's not you it's me" or "you deserve better" or "I'm holding you back from meeting someone that suits you more than I do". Don't put any hope into it. I've used some variation of this line a few times and while it is true, it is also true I am just not into that person any more.
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