sorry it's long but i'm confused and need your input

[The Farmer]

Hi this is my first time at this, so please bear with me on this. Well to start this off there is this girl that i really like, she is 3 yr's younger then me and to tell ya the truth i've never felt this way for another girl, it all started bout 4 months ago when i was at something she was at and she took my phone and put her number in there, so later in the week i called her up and just really started to get to know her. So eventually i felt comfortable enough and asked her to go on a date with me, she said sure, but 4 months later and we still havent gone out on a date yet, she is still in High School, but this summer she was busy with work at night, and now that school is going she still is working and playing volleyball and when she isnt busy she wants to hang out with her friends which i can understand. For a while things were kinda rocky idk were it was going and if anything was going to happen and pretty much gave up, but for some reason i couldnt let her go, we talk on the phone several times a week for bout 30 to 45 mins each time we joke around a lot and enjoy it, when she is having problems she comes to me and i try in help her out. The Question i have is is there anything there with this girl? month ago i asked her where are realtionship was going and she said tha she kinda liked other guys, but she still liked me and asked for time to think things out, and she said in the past she's gone out with guys for a while then all the sudden loses interest in them and breaks up with them, and she goes i dont wanna hurt u that way. so yeah here i am trying to get advise from you good ppl, is there something there? should i just be patience? should i ask her if there is anything ther or what? i need your help please thank you...

[Outcast]

You don't say how old you are, but I suspect you're older. Girls in high school are still finding their way and a lot aren't ready for commitment - even in the form of a steady relationship. I think you should look for someone closer to your own age.

[d'Arthez]

Outcast, he said that he is 3 years older.

 

I would be very wary. Scheduling a date can be a hassle, but the only thing you have been good for, is helping her with stuff. It does not mean she has necessarily bad intentions of using you, but it is not suggestive of anything happening that you want to happen either. The conversations sadly don't prove a thing.

In 4 months it is not an utter impossibility to schedule a date. She could for instance, if she really had no time available for herself, drop her friends for an evening. Her unwillingness to do that or consider that, is telling.

 

What she says can be completely true - but given the stress of highschool and subsequently college, what are the chances that with increasing stresses about education, she will be able to get more time off - to spend on anyone besides her friends?

 

I would forget about her as a romantic prospect.