HeartSprinkles Posted September 18, 2005 Posted September 18, 2005 I recommend a heating pad. Sleep with it, sit with it, eat dinner with it, just don't swim with it. I have killer cramps, they make me want to die, but a few nights with the heating pad really helps. Also, a short walk the day before they really set in. Drink water, lots of it! hope this helps...
Outcast Posted September 18, 2005 Posted September 18, 2005 A gal I know sent me this link. It's pretty detailed. http://www.pdrhealth.com/content/women_health/chapters/fgwh03.shtml
megabit15 Posted September 18, 2005 Posted September 18, 2005 i am getting the feeling that the way i act is causing problems for me and my girlfriend, it just doesnt seem like i can do anything correctly when it is her time of month. since i dont possess a handbook or set of guidelines to follow, i figured i would ask the people of the world what they think. just how should i act when she is going through this time so that i dont risk making things worse? any and ALL advice is appreciated, i will sift through it and formulate a plan of action. i might have to change some of my current behaviors and i might just have to learn to tolerate some of hers, but she is the most important person to me and i will do anything that i have to make things work. thanks in advance. You've got some good advice for what she can do to help herself. Since you asked about what you can do, I'll tell you what 'works' for me with my boyfriend. I can get crabby, irrational and tired too. (But Pamprin helps a lot with this and the bloating.) I love it when he makes me my favorite hot drink (good one is tension tamer hot tea). I like to have my back or feet rubbed. And of course, let me sleep as late as I want. Any show of tenderness or nurturance on his part is welcome, but asking for sex the first couple of days, not so welcome. Neither is mentioning how crabby or irrational I am. (kinda like, 'I can talk about my family that way, but you better not!') Hope this helps.
Author Tygris Posted September 18, 2005 Author Posted September 18, 2005 well thank again for the advice and for the link so... sleep and care... got it. along with keeping my mouth shut about everything... but some one said earlier that letting her know that you acknowledge the fact that she isnt feeling her best was something that i should do... guess i will have to try both out and see what works for her.
guest Posted September 18, 2005 Posted September 18, 2005 we can be complicated creatures at that time of the month and i think the first and best step is that you care enough to try to figure out a way to help her, and help yourself so it doesn't drive you crazy!!!! we are all very different...and things, medicines, whatever help some and not others. i luckily don't get really bad cramps, but when i do, i've found that exercise helps me most. yeah, i have to suck it up and force myself to go but it really helps me. pamprin, midol, etc. don't .. they just make me shake. and fortunately, or unfortunately, i'm one of those women who gets incredibly horny during that time! and luckily my BF doesn't get grossed out by it, he just go and grabs a towel and life goes on as usual. i think his ex was the same way since he didn't seem at all surprised by my "mood". i do get very sensitive and will cry at the drop of a hat, squished squirrel in the road, sad commerical, you name it the tears start to flow and i try to warn people not to take it personally. the fact that you care enough to try to help is incredibly admirable. most guys that i have known just complain about the moodiness and such and end up making it worse.
Outcast Posted September 18, 2005 Posted September 18, 2005 but some one said earlier that letting her know that you acknowledge the fact that she isnt feeling her best was something that i should do.. Depends how she reacts. If she understands that she's being irrational when she has PMS and acknowledges it, then that will work. OTOH if she is so cranky she refuses to acknowledge it (think when you say to someone 'you're angry' and the answer is I AM NOT ANGRY ) then silence is your best bet.
Author Tygris Posted September 19, 2005 Author Posted September 19, 2005 hmm, seems that i have things to try in a sort of trial and error process. i will just have to see what works and what doesnt. thanks alot though, i think this stuff might help keep a smile on her face... well at least for longer periods of time. thanks again.
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