HighAnxieties Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 Last Saturday I went on a a first date with a super cute, smart, clever girl. I felt like there was quite a lot of chemistry. We met for drinks and chit-chat, and eventually went back to my place. We were chatting and I tried to initiate some cuddling, which she responded to by initiating kissing. From the kissing she eventually guided my hands to her breasts, then to fingering her, culminating with her giving me a blowjob to completion, which she initiated without me asking. We already have plans for a second date tomorrow. I know I’m being neurotic, but does this sound like somebody who is really into me? Or is this more like somebody who really needed a hookup badly?
d0nnivain Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 Nobody can tell what is in her mind. Go out with her & see. Guard your own feelings until you are more sure about hers
ShadeOfGreen Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 People can have genuine interest into getting to know you and wanting more than casual while also really liking sex right away. Roll with it as long as whatever she wants matches your values. It's not too hard to tell after a little bit if all they want is something physical.
smackie9 Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 Some people are very sexually driven and sex is extremely important to them. So if things work out really well sexually for her, ie: you rock her world, she may consider taking things on a more serious level.
Author HighAnxieties Posted January 31, 2019 Author Posted January 31, 2019 A bit more general information: we’ve been communicating regularly and it’s been exclusively small talk and making plans. Sex has never been brought up.
smackie9 Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 A bit more general information: we’ve been communicating regularly and it’s been exclusively small talk and making plans. Sex has never been brought up. That can be a bad thing. She's just communicating bare min, and the sex is just an arrangement, no flirting/passion/interest in what you are all about, etc.
d0nnivain Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 Just go on the 2nd date & see what happens.
Author HighAnxieties Posted January 31, 2019 Author Posted January 31, 2019 That can be a bad thing. She's just communicating bare min, and the sex is just an arrangement, no flirting/passion/interest in what you are all about, etc. Oh, we’ve talked about our interests and such!
Insoc Posted January 31, 2019 Posted January 31, 2019 If only relationships were 100% Sex, too bad in reality that's not the case, there is a lot more involved in it, a lot more. Initially I find some women I'm meeting to be focused on this and it sorta is refreshing for a man coming out of a bad marriage, but also uneasy because I don't want to emotionally get attached to someone only to find out Sex alone was all they wanted and after the novelty wears out, you are just another guy in her trophy case. Some woman don't want a committed relationship, they just want to score, men are the same way, probably more so. Ask her about this history of her relationships, how long they lasted, you can see a trend which will likely answer your question. Some people are okay with serial dating an casual sex, but once you get past a certain age, it's old hat.
Author HighAnxieties Posted February 1, 2019 Author Posted February 1, 2019 She’s had a very stressful week. What are some small gestures to show I care that aren’t too much for a 2nd date?
smackie9 Posted February 1, 2019 Posted February 1, 2019 small bouquet of cheap flowers...don't spend over 10 bucks.
d0nnivain Posted February 1, 2019 Posted February 1, 2019 She’s had a very stressful week. What are some small gestures to show I care that aren’t too much for a 2nd date? Just listening to her. The flowers are a sweet idea. I would enjoy them but many on LS will tell you that they can seem overwhelming like you are trying too hard to some women.
MaleIntuition Posted February 2, 2019 Posted February 2, 2019 She’s had a very stressful week. What are some small gestures to show I care that aren’t too much for a 2nd date? Wo! Slow down. None whatsoever. It’s just a second date; relax and have fun with her. Stay away from relationship-y topics.
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