Wind Posted September 17, 2005 Posted September 17, 2005 I was speaking with a happily married friend of mine about my situation and she commented at some point that "its safe" to be OT. I dont know about anyone else but it seems to me its the most "dangerous" and/or risky situation I could ever be in. What do you think? Is it "safe" to be the OW/OM?
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 17, 2005 Posted September 17, 2005 It depends on what you mean by 'safe'. If there are OM/OW looking for a relationship that is not in any danger of passing out of the infatuation stage and into the committed monogamous stage then the MM/OW MW/OM relationship is a safe bet. Unfortunately, most people going into relationships like that think its safe, but end up getting emotionally attached anyway and what seemed like a 'safe' bet ends up being an emotional trap of wanting more than what was originally bargained for.
Wind Posted September 17, 2005 Posted September 17, 2005 I think of safe as being in a relationship that avoids commitments allowing yourself to be fooled by the "I have my freedom and independence and dont need more than that" argument or "things dont matter as its a diversion and I can handle it". Does anyone really think they will "avoid passing out of the infatuation stage"?
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 17, 2005 Posted September 17, 2005 Does anyone really think they will "avoid passing out of the infatuation stage"? I've seen more than a few who thought they could.
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