nadineblack Posted January 28, 2019 Posted January 28, 2019 I spent the weekend in another city helping a girlfriend through a difficult time. He knew this. On Friday he was looking through old photos because he has to do a brief presentation about his life history at work. I was on the train and asked him to send me his favourite photo. He sends me a photo of him and his ex-girlfriend in Portugal. Apparently he thought it would be funny because my Mom now lives there. On Sunday I'm coming back on the train to London and he texts saying "I’d love to see you tonight but my cough isn’t fully gone. I didn’t have any issues with it last night but I am worried it might flare up again and keep you awake". He does this all the time, says he wants to see me but already includes excuses at to why he might not be able too. Anyway, I told him that he should stay home, get some rest and hopefully cure that cough. I called him when I got home and I found out he had just been out for dinner with his ex-girlfriend. The same one from the picture. They're friends. I then said, "oh cool, so you're ok enough to come over to mine?" And he said "no, I don't really want to catch anymore cold air. I think I should stay in". Is this normal/nice behaviour? Would you accept it? Also, we have only been dating for 8-9 months! Also, we're going to Mexico on Saturday for 2 weeks. What do I do? Do I go? Do I dump him? The trip cost so much money ...
Curiousroxy86 Posted January 28, 2019 Posted January 28, 2019 Girl! Drop him. Go to Mexico without him and have the time of your life. And find a man who would be happy to see you and not still stuck on his ex. 3
Gretchen12 Posted January 28, 2019 Posted January 28, 2019 He wants to be with his ex. Let him. You don't need this. You can continue to have fun in Mexico, but just downgrade him in your heart and tell him. Then you start looking for a hotter guy.
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 28, 2019 Posted January 28, 2019 I would dump him and go to Mexico by myself. You are too easy-going. He thinks he can keep bailing from plans with no consequences, send you ex photo as his "favorite photo ever" etc. He has no respect for you and thinks he can get away with anything. 2
Zahara Posted January 28, 2019 Posted January 28, 2019 Not sure why you’re with this clown. After reading your other thread and now this smack on your face, it should be enough for you to dump this guy. Raise your standards. 2
ShadeOfGreen Posted January 28, 2019 Posted January 28, 2019 Is this normal/nice behaviour? Would you accept it? Also, we have only been dating for 8-9 months! Also, we're going to Mexico on Saturday for 2 weeks. What do I do? Do I go? Do I dump him? The trip cost so much money ... It is not nice behavior at all. Showing you the picture of him and his ex is at best insensitive. Saying he can't go out, but spends time instead with his ex would be unacceptable to me. I'd question his honesty and his priorities. Sounds like both are lacking. I'd be very direct. I'd say that I don't find it funny showing you pictures of him and his ex. I'd say it's very disappointing and hurtful that he said he couldn't go out, but spent time with his ex instead of you. I'd tell him you deserve better treatment than that.
Nnam Posted January 28, 2019 Posted January 28, 2019 Conversation is one of the things that keep a relationship going. The best thing to do before the time for the mexico trip reaches is to try having a conversation with him. if he cannot come to you because of his so many excuses then do to him and talk to him. Tell him your doubts and the fact that you don't like the recent hang outs with his ex. From his response you know if dropping his ass is the best thing.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 28, 2019 Posted January 28, 2019 In what world could this possibly be considered nice or normal behaviour, OP? I would dump this guy so fast his head would spin. He wants his ex more than he wants you. Don't go to Mexico with him. He doesn't respect you whatsoever. 1
d0nnivain Posted January 28, 2019 Posted January 28, 2019 Go to Mexico then end it when you get home.
smackie9 Posted January 28, 2019 Posted January 28, 2019 And make sure you dance with other men while you are there...... 3
olivetree Posted January 28, 2019 Posted January 28, 2019 I'd try to find a gf that could go to Mexico with you instead, and if that doesn't work I'd just cancel the trip and take the loss. I wouldn't spend another minute with that clown. 1
bathtub-row Posted January 28, 2019 Posted January 28, 2019 Tell this numbskull that it’s over between the two of you, gather up a friend and go to Mexico. 1
Juha Posted January 28, 2019 Posted January 28, 2019 Respect yourself as you deserve better treatment and dump this bozo quickly. Dump him and say adios, then head to Mexico alone. If you paid for his ticket see if a friend can go with you. Do not accept poor behavior from the people you date. This guy has crappy boundaries and does not respect you. I wish you the best
Redhead14 Posted January 28, 2019 Posted January 28, 2019 Respect yourself as you deserve better treatment and dump this bozo quickly. Dump him and say adios, then head to Mexico alone. If you paid for his ticket see if a friend can go with you. Do not accept poor behavior from the people you date. This guy has crappy boundaries and does not respect you. I wish you the best She cannot just take someone else. The name on the plane tickets have to match the ID provided exactly . . . And, depending on the type of tickets purchased, cancelling or changing at this late date might be pretty expensive too, even if they would make the change.
preraph Posted January 28, 2019 Posted January 28, 2019 He's still into his ex. He totally lied to you. Chances are she doesn't feel the same way, but that's not really the point.
Author nadineblack Posted January 28, 2019 Author Posted January 28, 2019 Thank you everyone for your support! I’m going to dump him before Mexico 5
I'veseenbetterlol Posted January 29, 2019 Posted January 29, 2019 Yeah no I wouldn't accept this. Obviously he is still hung up on his ex.
manfrombelow2 Posted January 29, 2019 Posted January 29, 2019 Normally I'm all against the "dumping movement" on LS in most cases, but NOT in this particular case. Best of lucks for you OP.
Simple Logic Posted January 29, 2019 Posted January 29, 2019 I would go to Nexico with him, ignore him, and go to bars to meet guys before He dumped himself.
Versacehottie Posted January 29, 2019 Posted January 29, 2019 No.... I wouldn't jump to conclusions about what is going on, just that what he did that night isn't good enough for me. Sorry you are going through this, good luck
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