ZA Dater Posted January 27, 2019 Posted January 27, 2019 Ok so I bought into an idea sold by a friend to try out yoga with this fairly pretty petite yoga instructor friend of his, she had met me before and apparently found me "interesting". The yoga went fairly well and I found I wasn't quite an elephant I thought I was and the conversation with her was also good, decided this time I was just going to be me and we chatted about life experiences philosophy and so on, some fairly decent common ground. So I go to a friends party last night and she is there, now I never really dance, I am pathetic at it and feel very self conscious, however this time I decided because she was there I would need to compete with the rest of the guys chasing her so I decided to dance with her which proved amusing because while doing so said guys tried their luck to varying degrees of amusement from me and her. I ended up being the guy who dropped her at home, there was a hug but in retrospect I should have maybe tried for more, some texts after that. Me: "I think you are fantastic and had a great evening with you" Her" I think you are a fantastic person to, had fun with you". I cant really read her, what do I do now, another meet up, she wants to do another one on one yoga lesson but its hard to tell if she likes me?
Rayce Posted January 27, 2019 Posted January 27, 2019 That sounds like it went really well!~ I am so happy for you! You got a hug and she wants to do another yoga lesson... yes I think she likes you.
Curiousroxy86 Posted January 27, 2019 Posted January 27, 2019 Ask her out again. "I would like to see you again. Can I take you out this weekend?" Or "when can I see you again". If she says yes or tell you when she free then she interested
nospam99 Posted January 27, 2019 Posted January 27, 2019 I ended up being the guy who dropped her at home, there was a hug but in retrospect I should have maybe tried for more, some texts after that. Me: ''I think you are fantastic and had a great evening with you'' Her'' I think you are a fantastic person to, had fun with you''. I cant really read her, what do I do now, another meet up, she wants to do another one on one yoga lesson but its hard to tell if she likes me? GEEZUS DUDE! Do the yoga lesson! Have you asked her out to dinner YET? A movie? Ballroom dance lessons and parties? Do you know what else she likes to do for fun? Touch? Held hands? What are her intellectual interests? If you don't already share them, learn them! Worst thing that can happen is she eventually dumps you. Meanwhile practice being a dating partner (or whatever else you want to call this kind of male/female relationship).
Author ZA Dater Posted January 27, 2019 Author Posted January 27, 2019 she is not romantically interested in you Probably correct hence I am probably just going to friend zone this instead of putting my foot out and being rejected. That's what I am leaning towards doing.
smackie9 Posted January 27, 2019 Posted January 27, 2019 You know what, do the yoga lesson, then ask her out for a nutritious juice afterwards.....then ask her if she would be interested in taking dance a dance lesson with you and dinner later. Stop over thinking, and just look at it as a start of a nice friendship that could lead to something serious down the road. Take the pressure off yourself, and keep things light and casual.
FMW Posted January 27, 2019 Posted January 27, 2019 Sounds to me as if there is a good chance she might have some romantic interest. Just take any opportunities to get together that she provides and suggest something yourself - coffee, dinner, whatever you are comfortable with.
MaleIntuition Posted January 27, 2019 Posted January 27, 2019 Probably correct hence I am probably just going to friend zone this instead of putting my foot out and being rejected. That's what I am leaning towards doing. She turned down a bunch of guys and signaled that she was interested. Rejection is always a possibility but it’s not a certainty. Invite her on an evening date, dinner, perhaps? 1
Author ZA Dater Posted January 27, 2019 Author Posted January 27, 2019 You know what, do the yoga lesson, then ask her out for a nutritious juice afterwards.....then ask her if she would be interested in taking dance a dance lesson with you and dinner later. Stop over thinking, and just look at it as a start of a nice friendship that could lead to something serious down the road. Take the pressure off yourself, and keep things light and casual. I think what has been nice here is she accepts me as being awkward me and encourages me to not hide it but to just be it. She is a bit crazy too and very individual. Normally I would never dance but she got me to do that, endless guys tried to "take her home" but she always stuck with me. I'll try set something up this coming week, she doesn't live here but is considering moving here. My concern is I don't really know how to show "interest" I know how to show kind but not interest.
loversquarrel Posted January 27, 2019 Posted January 27, 2019 You show interest by growing some balls and asking her out. Seriously though show her some confidence otherwise it's a lost cause. Judging from your response to a previous post, you are far to quick to abandon the idea of her being romantically interested in you. Don't let that be the way you think, be confident and unafraid. 2
smackie9 Posted January 27, 2019 Posted January 27, 2019 Interacting with her, trying to make her laugh and taking her out on dates is showing interest. What really impressed her is that you were willing to step out of your comfort zone. That takes ballz.
Author ZA Dater Posted January 27, 2019 Author Posted January 27, 2019 Interacting with her, trying to make her laugh and taking her out on dates is showing interest. What really impressed her is that you were willing to step out of your comfort zone. That takes ballz. Yes it was a very, very long way out of my comfort zone, there was some hand holding, touching. I think the problem here is my view she is "way out of my league", I don't really believe in leagues per se but this seemed impossible when I friend suggested I get to know her... There isn't a lot of texting, I'd rather talk to her face to face. I think she is here for another week or so. This whole thing has been quite odd because I never go out of my comfort zone.
Curiousroxy86 Posted January 27, 2019 Posted January 27, 2019 You show interest by growing some balls and asking her out. Seriously though show her some confidence otherwise it's a lost cause. Judging from your response to a previous post, you are far to quick to abandon the idea of her being romantically interested in you. Don't let that be the way you think, be confident and unafraid. Lmao right. My sentiments exactly.
Author ZA Dater Posted January 27, 2019 Author Posted January 27, 2019 I think the difference with this scenario is I simply told her was awkward and didn't have much confidence. Usually these are straight deal killers but it doesn't seem to have been in this case.
smackie9 Posted January 27, 2019 Posted January 27, 2019 Yes it was a very, very long way out of my comfort zone, there was some hand holding, touching. I think the problem here is my view she is "way out of my league", I don't really believe in leagues per se but this seemed impossible when I friend suggested I get to know her... There isn't a lot of texting, I'd rather talk to her face to face. I think she is here for another week or so. This whole thing has been quite odd because I never go out of my comfort zone. Never ever think you are out of someones league. I always hated it when people criticized me for not dating someone that wasn't equal to my looks. I dated them because I liked them, and in my eyes I found them attractive. She might feel the same way...she likes you because you are different, fun and seeing you go out of your comfort zone is an asset to a woman.
Author ZA Dater Posted January 27, 2019 Author Posted January 27, 2019 Never ever think you are out of someones league. I always hated it when people criticized me for not dating someone that wasn't equal to my looks. I dated them because I liked them, and in my eyes I found them attractive. She might feel the same way...she likes you because you are different, fun and seeing you go out of your comfort zone is an asset to a woman. Dancing for three hours to trance music was about as far as I have been out of my comfort zone in a long time. Must admit today I have a strangely content feeling.
Wallysbears Posted January 27, 2019 Posted January 27, 2019 Great date story! This is exciting and I’m happy for you!
Lotsgoingon Posted January 27, 2019 Posted January 27, 2019 I think she gave you a very positive response ... saying "fantastic" to you ... All the women who have wanted to ditch me or keep me at a distance have never quickly said something like "I too think you are fantastic." And no, you didn't need to "go" for the kiss. You need to ask her out again ... along the lines that Smackie suggested.
Author ZA Dater Posted January 28, 2019 Author Posted January 28, 2019 I am seeing her for dinner tomorrow evening. Asked her out which took some degree of courage. 2
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