samhawk000 Posted September 17, 2005 Posted September 17, 2005 That's the question i'm asking right now. These days, a lot of bad stuff has been happening to me, and I've been thinking a lot... Ok, the thing is, there is this person I don't get along well with. All the way from 6th grade till now at 10th grade, I just don't get along with him. Don't get me wrong. I've made many attempts to be friends with him...but it just doesn't work. First of all, I can't stand him. He's better than me in almost every way. He's smarter, better at sports, funnier, and a whole lot of other stuff (you're probably thinking that I'm jealous, and yes, I am jealous). And the thing is, he's only better than me by a little, tiny bit. The worst of it is, he rubs it in my face and makes me feel like crap:( . Not to mention the fact that he enjoys (yes, enjoys) humiliating me until I become a a laughingstock. Jeez! Where did all this hate come from? All I ever wanted was to get along with him. Now, after so many years of this, I don't think that will ever happen. If I confront him, he won't take me seriously. I'm totally lost here. What should I do?
CHAZ87 Posted September 17, 2005 Posted September 17, 2005 Anytime he rubs anything in your face, just smile and possibly laugh at him. When I was in school, if somebody threatened me or tried to get under my skin. I just smiled and let a little laugh so everybody could hear, turn around and walk off. I saved my aggression for the football field. Don't try and be freinds with a <lickhead like that. The kind that are full of insecurities that they have to show everybody up because they are lacking in some area. They always are.
big_girls_rock Posted September 19, 2005 Posted September 19, 2005 Just because he's on his high horse dosn't mean you have to stoop to his level. Who cares if hes better then you at everything- this too shall pass- when your done with high scholl you will be moving on to bigger and better things anyway so why waste thoughts on something that isn't gonna budge right now. Just be yourself and do things that let him know that you aren't on it- you can still be polite- you can still show respect even though he dosn't. He will soon notice what a bumhole he is and he will feel like crap if you don't let it faze you. If you arn't the polite type let him know up front how you feel- tell him what hes doing to you is pissing you off, ask him what exactly it was that made you two come to this point- tell him he needs to grow up- if you show that you really want to either be friends or put this behind you- you should nip the problem at the bud by confronting the situation.
RecordProducer Posted September 19, 2005 Posted September 19, 2005 Youcan also disarm him by showing him that you're a human being. Everybody has the courage to be mean, to hate, to defend oneself, and show "you didn't hurt me, you scum!" On the contrary, show him that you're hurt. But be a man about it, not lick his ass. Tell him (in your own appropriate words): "I am not offended by your words, but I am offended by your attempt to hurt me. I know my values and I know your values and I wouldn't expect from someone like you to act like this. However, if you feel threatened by me, there is nothing I can do about it. You're going to have to live with me on the same planet." I think this would shut him up. When I was in high school, there was a girl who tried to persuade me (for no reason at all, except that she was very ugly) that I was obsessed with sex. She would hear me sing a love song or see my plastic bag with a drawing of a couple kissing on it and she would imply that everything about me is related to sex. So one day I told her: "Can't you see that you the one obsessed with sex? You talk about it all the time!" She just said: "Who, me?" and never ever mentioned it again. The truth is this guy feels insecure although you think he is some kind of god. He doesn't like it that you're alos good so he wants to "eliminate" you from his petty world. Show him that you are better than him in communication and he will stop.
CHAZ87 Posted September 19, 2005 Posted September 19, 2005 I am sorry but I will have to disagree with both of these ladies. If you aproach him and tell him anything like these two women said. You will show him you are weak in his eyes. Trust me the smiling and laughing "at the threat" not him, will show him you are strong and too smart to put up with petty $hit. I will admit I had size on my side. But when I was a Freshman, I had that same porblem coming from a Junior. I just laughed at him and walked away. All this in front of his friends. He was a popular guy. I just didn't play that game. The next year I went out for football and lifted weights all year and summer long. Needless to say, I got mine. Hang in there, don't do anything that shows fear. Brush it off with a smirk and a laugh.
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