Starstuff1992 Posted January 27, 2019 Posted January 27, 2019 Hi all, I have a lot of trouble reading people’s intentions, and it’s gotten me hurt/taken advantage of in the past. I’m looking for an objective opinion on whether this guy is into me or not. He is 33 and I am a 26 year old female. I know it’s impossible to tell for sure from a paragraph, but just hoping for some feedback. Thank you in advance! We went on a date a couple of weeks ago on a Wednesday night. We had dinner, talked for about 3 hours and only ended the date because the restaurant was closing. He hugged me goodbye. I didn’t hear anything from him the next day, so I texted him the next night saying I had a good time and would be interested in seeing him again if he was. He replied back that he had a good time too and would definitely be interested in getting together again. We texted back and forth over the next week. Something I’ve noticed even from our first conversation is that he’s not a big texter. He works outdoors and goes to the gym after work. Sometimes he takes almost an hour to text me back. He rarely texts me first (but he has a few times to ask how my day was.) We got together again the following Friday for dinner. We had kind of been flirting through text a couple of days before this, and the subject of kissing was brought up. I was expecting him to kiss me goodnight, but he didn’t. Again, the date went well. There was a bit more physical interaction than the first date (he put his arm around me at one point, he would briefly put his hands over mine on the table.) but when we went to say goodnight, just a hug again. He texted me when I got home that he was sorry if the goodbye was awkward, but that he was “too worried about trying to be funny, and you deserve a better goodbye than that so I got you next time ” I feel kind of confused. I’m not sure if he’s really into me, or if he’s just stringing me along. Part of me feels like he is into me, maybe just nervous or taking it slow. But then part of me is comparing this to guys I’ve dated in the past who would always text me good morning/goodnight and were practically wanting to make out on the first date. I really like this guy. We have a lot in common, a lot of the same values, etc. I don’t mind taking it slow at all. I want to build a meaningful relationship. I just don’t want to waste my time/energy if he’s not into me. I feel weird just coming out and asking him because it’s only been two dates Thanks again for any insight!
Simple Logic Posted January 27, 2019 Posted January 27, 2019 It sounds to me like this guy is into you, but maybe not the most experienced or confident dater. He knows he screwed up not kissing you on date 2 and is planning date 3 when he is planning on correcting that mistake. Don’t bail now. 1
Curiousroxy86 Posted January 27, 2019 Posted January 27, 2019 I don't like it hun... "Dates week ago" men that really like you asks when they can see you again timely so you don't get snatched up by another man. "He rarely text me first" men that really like you pursue you by contacting you and if he is not initiating on his own it's not a good sign. And if it's you who doesn't give him the opportunity because your always initiating well you can never tell if he likes you because your the one always initiating. He didn't kiss you goodnight. And y'all talked about it prior? Men kiss women they like or at the least attracted to unless he is verrrry shy and he would show other signs of shyness for me to even give him that pass. So my first knee jerk reaction response is drop this dude. But if you really like this guy (rolls eyes) here is what you do. My 2 cents take it or leave it. Let him initiate. I know a lot of y'all are like "you say that to everybody" lol. But in this case really you need to let him initiate. You don't know if he likes you like that cause your always initiating. Let him initiate contacting you and let him initiate asking you out. If at anytime he don't initiate contacting you or initiate asking you out then you got your answer and you need to move on to men that will. If the next time you go on a date with this man he don't kiss you the then next time he contact you say "Joe honey (whatever his name is) do you not like kissing? Because I do lol" and see what he says. If he responds favorably as in he wants to kiss you but trying to find the right time then let him ask you out one more time. If he don't kiss you again let him go. Something wrong with him lol. Good luck.
Cersei Posted January 27, 2019 Posted January 27, 2019 He sounds interested to me. I think he didn't kiss you because he was a little scared or not sure if it was appropriate. Give him another chance If you really like him.
smackie9 Posted January 27, 2019 Posted January 27, 2019 IMO it is standard fare for the woman to contact the guy right after the date to thank him and that you had a great time. Sounds to me he's one of these guys that has trouble reading signals, because you didn't get any interaction until you took action. So if you wanted to kiss him, set it up and be that close to him to let him know it's a go. Encourage him to take you out by letting him know you would love to see him again....with some flirting emojis, etc.
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