sensitivegirl0 Posted January 23, 2019 Posted January 23, 2019 What is the difference between "you are the best thing that has happened to me" and"you are the best thing that has happened to me in a long time"? If you were dating someone for a couple of months and they told you the latter, would you be flattered?
GorillaTheater Posted January 23, 2019 Posted January 23, 2019 Of course I would. It would smack of some serious ego issues if I expected that I was the best thing *ever* to happen to someone. I'm good, but I ain't that good. 7
SevenCity Posted January 23, 2019 Posted January 23, 2019 Well my ex girlfriend said I was the best thing that ever happened to her as she moved out of my house and left me. It reminded me not to put too much faith in what women say..... 2
Art Anderson Posted January 23, 2019 Posted January 23, 2019 I would prefer to hear the latter version "in a long time." That sounds like this person actually had a life with some happiness before meeting you. "Ever" sounds too clingy for a relatively new situation. 4
preraph Posted January 23, 2019 Posted January 23, 2019 You're overthinking. Trying to read too much into things. 5
alphamale Posted January 24, 2019 Posted January 24, 2019 You're overthinking. Trying to read too much into things. agreed preraph
hippychick3 Posted January 24, 2019 Posted January 24, 2019 You are definitely overthinking this. The latter is more genuine and real. I'd be flattered. 1
Simple Logic Posted January 24, 2019 Posted January 24, 2019 What is the difference between "you are the best thing that has happened to me" and"you are the best thing that has happened to me in a long time"? If you were dating someone for a couple of months and they told you the latter, would you be flattered? It depends. If this person believes he has had a run of bad luck for situations in his life, he may see you as turning point to a positive future. If he is referencing his previous dates, he may be telling you are the second best person he has dated. Or, as I suspect, you have a BF that heard that saying some place and copied it without thinking how it would be accepted.
d0nnivain Posted January 24, 2019 Posted January 24, 2019 Both are good although the unqualified one is better. Don't fret over word choice though I bet next week the same person will say the same thing about the next fabulous thing they eat. It's a saying not a comprehensive analysis of your relationship or your value as a person.
PRW Posted January 24, 2019 Posted January 24, 2019 They are both too clingy/needy and emotionally over-invested,...one is just worse than the other. This is particularly true if it is a "new" situation. 1
ShadeOfGreen Posted January 24, 2019 Posted January 24, 2019 I would just take it as a positive statement someone from someone who is happy with how things are going. It has a young inexperienced ring to it, and people sometimes say things like this when high on a cloud in the early stages of dating someone. Because of this, I also don't put too much stock in it. Be happy that they are happy. Enjoy the moment, but realize two months in isn't enough time to know each other enough to really make that statement about one's whole life.
Lotsgoingon Posted January 24, 2019 Posted January 24, 2019 Either phrasing is a compliment ... but you're getting lost ... did you feel an electric jolt when she spoke? That matters far more than the exact words. People can say very cautious words (looked at on a page) with incredible power and force ... Others can say fantastic things ... and it means nothing.
smackie9 Posted January 24, 2019 Posted January 24, 2019 What is the difference between "you are the best thing that has happened to me" and"you are the best thing that has happened to me in a long time"? If you were dating someone for a couple of months and they told you the latter, would you be flattered? What is your take on this?
basil67 Posted January 24, 2019 Posted January 24, 2019 Yes, I'd be very happy. I don't presume myself to be so special that after only a couple of months I'd be the best thing ever. Of course, if he was proposing marriage, I'd expect to be told I was the best thing ever
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