OperaNut Posted September 17, 2005 Posted September 17, 2005 I am so hurt and am hoping someone can help me :-( My best friend of eleven and a half years is hurting me terribly! I love her so much and she is one of those people that everyone loves because she has such a beautiful personality. Yet lately I am so angry at her and do not know what to do. I am leaving the country for graduate school in ten days with a one way ticket. I am moving to Europe and do not know when I will be back. Yet my best friend is practically ignoring me! She broke up with her boyfriend in the middle of August and moved in with some friends on the other side of town. She started dating a new guy, and has been spending her spare time going out with this new guy and her new room mates. I have not gone out with her since August 6. I call her and leave messages, and she takes forever to call back and is always apologetic. Like today, she was sorry because she had gone out of town with this new guy for three days. But she does not ask me to do anything or come over or anything at all and the last time we talked she said "HOPEFULLY we will be able to hang out before you leave." Hopefully???? I am her best friend of eleven and a half years! The one she claims to "love so much" because I am "always there for her like no one else." I leave the country in ten days, and I know what she will do. She will wait until the last minute and then call and say "lets get together before you leave." Like she is squeezing me in. But I would think that knowing I am leaving the country she would have wanted to spend time with me instead of this new guy! She is hurting me so much and I do not want to leave the country with this grudge. She even made plans with me one weekend and then, without telling me, made other plans with this new boyfriend of hers and when I called wondering where she was (I was to meet her at her work but she got off early) she said, "oh, sorry, I should have called you to let you know that I am going out with him tonight." I am so mad and hurt by her. It is like her actions are saying "I don't care about you or if you leave or if I really see you again." What should I do? I do not want to hold this grudge but if she calls and wants to hang out I dont want to go and pretend that I am not upset. Please help! I want to stay friends without this eating away at me.
guest Posted September 18, 2005 Posted September 18, 2005 hey opera, i am in the same position but the person behaving with me in the same way is a guy friend actually one of my best frends from the past 5 yrs..he did the same thing both of us leaving for diff cities cud not be bothered to call and when plans were made he ditched like the night b4.............i wud also like some input over the same issue........ it really hurts......and i know how u must feel.......... aqua
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