How can I seduce him properly?

[Cakess]

Okay, well tomorrow I have asked him to come over, we'll probably order out and then I'll just take the leap and tell him how I feel. I'll tell him that I like him more than just a friend maybe and if he'll be open to reciprocating those feelings towards me. Probably before anything intimate happens. If anyone has any tips on how best I can approach this situation, I'd be all for it.

Edited January 23, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[darkmoon]

Just hint at love. Bring up the subject of fidelity (does he believe in it?) in a general discussion way, just have a chatty debate, and see what he says

 

 

And have another subject ready to switch to. Do not get stuck on a serious tone.

 

 

 

I urge you not to try to make love happen, it feels forced, faked and unenjoyable, forcing anything is just obligation

Edited January 22, 2019 by darkmoon

[d0nnivain]

Okay, well tomorrow I have asked him to come over, we'll probably order out and then I'll just take the leap and tell him how I feel. I'll tell him that I like him more than just a friend maybe and if he'll be open to reciprocating those feelings towards me. Probably before anything intimate happens. If anyone has any tips on how best I can approach this situation, I'd be all for it.

 

I think that is just fine. It's direct but low pressure.

 

I also think he's going to balk. Then what are you going to do?

[Cakess]

It depends on how he balks I guess. If he means that he'll never be able to form true romantic feelings for me then I'll have to let him go, but if he says he might just need more time than I'd be happy to wait.

[Cakess]

*****UPDATE ********

 

I confessed to him and learned that my feelings are returned but not enough to pursue a relationship with everything he says is going on in his life right now. I guess I'll have to give it up, but thanks guys for your help.

[d0nnivain]

I'm sorry you didn't get the outcome you wanted but at least now you know. With knowledge you can move forward, even if it is away from him

 

hugs

[DrNo1962]

Hi guys, it's been awhile since I've been on here but I'm really looking for some non bias love advice. For starters, I am 23 years old and the guy I am interested in dating is 26 years old. He has a 3 year old son with my ex friend. I would describe him as shy, with a leading feminine energy and myself as a soft, bubbly person but I definitely lead with my masculine energy most days. I am pretty attracted to easy going, gentle natured guys.

 

Our relationship started out kind of odd, and even though I don't think it's related to my question I'll post it:

 

Originally I was friends with his son's mother about 3 years ago, that friendship only lasted a few months. Then, about a year ago, he and I matched up on OKC, went on a date and hit it off right away, but the relationship was weird in that it was...casual, but exclusive, but non-romantic, yet fully sexual. If that makes sense. Anyway, I realized that I was developing serious feelings for him, which I think he reciprocated but neither or us wanted to break the ice so instead I just called it off completely.

 

That was 3 months ago. I reached out to him for I guess, a booty call and he and I have fallen right back into old habits. But this time I want it to be different, I want to really be honest with him about my feelings for him. My issue is, he's really shy, and I don't know how best to seduce him into letting me in completely.

 

Now onto the question:

 

Between caring for his son, holding a full time job, and constantly in legal battles with his son's mother/my ex friend, it's hard for me to work any charm into his life. I don't want to be pushy, but I want him to think of me as a vacation from all his stress where he can be comfortable and open and receive love. Right now he does, but I feel like he thinks I just see him as sex and nothing more, and that he has so much going on that he can't involve me. He doesn't trust me and he's holding me at arms' length, even after all this time. What can I do to push my way in???

 

I wanted to highlight those two bits so they stand out in the forefront of your mind.

 

Masculine energy is like an arrow whistling through the air making its way towards its intended target with purpose whereas feminine energy is like the weather in a constant state of flux and expression (heat, cloudiness, dryness, sunshine, wind, rain, etc.)

 

If you want to try to turn things around, which is going to be hard, you are going to need to bring out a bit more of your feminine side (bonding, open with your feelings, connection etc) while giving him the opportunity to be masculine (take the lead, be decisive and challenge himself by stepping out of his comfort zone).