Vikingfan Posted September 17, 2005 Posted September 17, 2005 I dated this guy on and off for 2 years. The last month he started backing away and I wouldnt hear from him for like a week at a time. He finally told me that he wanted to end things because he didnt want to hurt me. He told me that he could see us being together forever but that he wasn't ready for that. So like a week later he had another girlfriend and now I think they might be moving in together. The thing is that she is not his type at all so maybe its just a thing he needs to get out of the way. I know he still has feelings for me because he told me. When I told him that I couldnt talk to him till I got over him he got depressed. So, We hung out one night and ended up making out, which was stupid on my part because I am not at all over him. It has been like 3 months and I still have the same feelings for him that I had months ago and its not going away and it hurts when I see the 2 of them together. I have tried dating other guys but find myself pushing them away and ignoring them, but Im sick of being single. Do you think that there is a chance with this guy still? If you dont think so I need some tips on how to get over him because whatever Im doing is not working.
hoppy28 Posted September 18, 2005 Posted September 18, 2005 this guy isnt for you. he "doesnt want to hurt you" so he broke up with you and then has some new girl move in. the first thing you need to do is start no contact. if he's with someone else you need not be chasing him or trying to convince him to be with you. for your own sanity stop talking with him. you need to understand that someone who trullt loves you wouldnt tell you these things. why would he even want to risk someother guy snatching you up if he loved you. he;s trying to let you down as lightly as possable. someday you will realise that a person that trully loves you will never leave no matter what the reason..................if he comes back then youll have that road to cross then. until he calls you work on yourself. take some time off from dating. it wont kill you. ive been single for 2 years. i know who i am. i know what i want out of life. being single has many benefits. sure there are times i get lonely but you know what id rather be lonely then in a "bad" relationship anyday. walk away with your chin held high and know that someday you will be loved. i mean true love.
snailz Posted September 18, 2005 Posted September 18, 2005 hey PLEASE dont make the same mistakes i did, i was in a very simillar situation to you and in fact still am because i always believed that he would come back to me, whenever he spoke to me or made an effort to be nice it gave me a little ray of hope that just maybe he wanted me back when really all he was doing was playing games- i now feel like a puppet on a string. you need to stay away from him completely and have time to heal because if you dont, he's always going to be around, everytime you see him its like its a small tug on the past.
Author Vikingfan Posted September 18, 2005 Author Posted September 18, 2005 I know that not talking to him is for the best...atleast right now until I get over him. Im afraid I will lose his friendship and I love hanging out with him. Although he has changed alot because his gf is stuck up so he seems he has to act that way to everyone but her friends. I hate guys!!!
snailz Posted September 18, 2005 Posted September 18, 2005 i do feel so bad for you. i think when you lose someone you really love its the worse feeling in the world, i know my ex is ALL i think about- its not healthy i know but i cant stop, im sure you are going through the same thing, there's nothing anyone can say that will stop you hurting right now. The only thing i find that helps is if i keep busy, its when you are alone that you start to think about stuff- its then that it hurts more.
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