Author Despr8 Posted January 26, 2019 Author Posted January 26, 2019 This is all so embarrassing. She dumped you. If you follow anything Corey Wayne says you would have known that all contact should have been done by her exclusively. After one year of NC, instead of waiting to hear from her, you get in touch with her and get blown off. She feels bad for you and asks you out a day or so later. She says thanks for the time (This is when you should have asked her out again). You then continue to chase her down. You’re chasing her, and what you’ve done so far is pretty needy and desperate. You’re projecting your own interest on her. I don’t think she cares about you as much as you think she does. Go NC. If she ever gets in touch by herself, then you can ask her over to yours. Trust me I'm definitely going no contact, but here's the thing I feel which I find ridiculous and ironic in love, life and dating. Whenever I meet a new girl I'm really into all of a sudden ex's, new girls come out the woodwork's, just rains women. I was juggling 5 girls at one point. Then the drought comes and nobody wants you. I find it sad and stupid that the high odds are she'll want me back when I want nothing to do with her and happy with someone else. I ask myself why even bother. I know my choice was stupid and broke all the coaches advise but I put it out there in the universe and got shot down now I can continue to work on myself again. I've seen threads where people after 5 years haven't moved on and it breaks my heart because we all deserve love. I'm 40 now and even though im looking better now then when I was younger I don't want to be alone.
Twizzlestick Posted January 26, 2019 Posted January 26, 2019 . I find it sad and stupid that the high odds are she'll want me back when I want nothing to do with her and happy with someone else. . I’m only day 11 into not Contacting her. I marvel at your post. You’re a year in. I can’t imagine that . We’re similar ages too. Before you contacted her this time, after a whole year. did you feel better after that year than you did at month three? If so do you now feel stuck on hope again post contacting? You seem just like me, in what you say, the way you think and I’m only week 5 into a break up. That really worries me, for me. I don’t want to be selling myself false hopes after a year. I’d give anything not to feel what I’ve quoted above after a year. To not be concerned with whether she’ll come back.
Sgthaytham Posted January 26, 2019 Posted January 26, 2019 (edited) <snip> I've seen threads where people after 5 years haven't moved on and it breaks my heart because we all deserve love. I'm 40 now and even though im looking better now then when I was younger I don't want to be alone. Come on dude, you’re fooling no one but yourself. If you were really busy juggling several girls, you wouldn’t be on here. Hell, you wouldn’t be fussed about this ex of yours. If a girl you turned off comes back into your life, always assume they want to see you and just ask them out straight away. Edited January 28, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Truncate quote
Author Despr8 Posted January 26, 2019 Author Posted January 26, 2019 (edited) Twizzlestick I've been with her for 7 years and we've broken up in the past for several months so there's so much to my story. I dated a lot but most of the girls fizzled away or was just sexual. I dated one girl after this break up that looking back at it it was my fault because I was emotionally closed off. She was great too. I didn't feel better after 3 months, If anything I felt worse. I had distractions with other women but I always thought about my ex. Time didn't heal me and dating didn't make me forget. Now I just learn to live with it and continue my day. I'm seeing two girls now and it's strictly physical. But I don't like them in a GF sense, just fwb. I'm hoping for great love and someone I can settle. When you start dating you'll see how it's all changed in the dating scene. People are nuts lol. I can just say keep working on yourself, hit the gym and make more money. I don't know your situation or story but hooking up with girls wont erase the pain. It's all filler while you deal with your inner self. Sgthaytham Juggling and dating doesn't mean much when you're still stuck emotionally on your ex like Kanye West said in Bound " 1 good girl is worth a 1,000 bitches" Sorry had replied on my cell and confused the last two posters. Edited January 28, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs
Author Despr8 Posted January 28, 2019 Author Posted January 28, 2019 (edited) <snip> Got complete silence and no response. Figured maybe she needs time to think or shes just afraid or she doesn't care. Guessing silence can be a good sign. What are your thoughts be brutal lol I know some of you are like I told you so haha. So I got a reply saying" Sorry for not responding but I will soon." The suspense is killing me lol wtf is she gonna say. I'm thinking either 1. She doesn't know how to gently tell me it's over so she's gonna write some heartfelt bs. Which I hate lol or 2. She's trying to figure out what she's gonna do with her current bf and coming back to me. Hoping for 2 but odds are it's 1 but who really knows. Edited January 28, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Truncate quote and fix formatting
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