Yardy Posted January 16, 2019 Posted January 16, 2019 I’ve known this girl for 5 years as a friend and she’s a very sweet Christian girl, but also very shy. I like her but am having trouble reading her. We recently had lunch together on Sunday and I asked if she was seeing or targeting anyone, her answers to both questions were no (by shaking her head and looking down at the table). She’s Asian and previously mentioned she’d prefer to date white guys (I’m white) due to her bad impression of some Asian guys she’s come across. When I asked what’s she looking for in a man, she asked if I’m trying to introduce someone to her, which I said I don’t know what she’s looking for. So after lunch, I went to her place to install some gadget in her bathroom and took the opportunity to hold her hands by teaching her how to use a nail gun and she was fine with it. When I left her place, I gave her a very tight hug and asked her for another hug after letting go and a cheek kiss before driving off, which she willingly did too. What are the chances of getting rejected if I ask her out formally? I messaged her a Xmas wish text on Xmas day, and she texted me a New Year’s text on 1st Jan. We’ve just been texting random stuff once a week, but neither of us texted each other since Sunday in keeping with our usual texting patterns - she initiates most of the time.
Osho Posted January 16, 2019 Posted January 16, 2019 What do have to lose by trying? You listed a lot of reasons to try but none to not try. 1
d0nnivain Posted January 16, 2019 Posted January 16, 2019 There's always a chance you could get rejected but there seems to be a good chance that she will accept your invitation. Do make it a classy respectful date. Remember you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. 1
smackie9 Posted January 16, 2019 Posted January 16, 2019 Shy girls need/want out going confident men or nothing will happen. 1
alphamale Posted January 16, 2019 Posted January 16, 2019 you've known her for 5 years and can't figure out how to ask her out? it really doesn't matter because you are friendzoned 2
basil67 Posted January 16, 2019 Posted January 16, 2019 If she's this shy, I imagine a date with her would be excruciatingly painful. What's the attraction? 1
Author Yardy Posted January 16, 2019 Author Posted January 16, 2019 If she's this shy, I imagine a date with her would be excruciatingly painful. What's the attraction? We have gone out for dinners as friends before, and she does talk and open up to me about her personal life etc. Just to add, we used to work together for a short period of time and I got to know she’s a good worker too, well-liked by co-workers.
Rayce Posted January 16, 2019 Posted January 16, 2019 We have gone out for dinners as friends before, and she does talk and open up to me about her personal life etc. Just to add, we used to work together for a short period of time and I got to know she’s a good worker too, well-liked by co-workers. ah how sweet... ask her out for dinner and then just lean in and kiss her!
AmyHershaw Posted January 16, 2019 Posted January 16, 2019 It sounds like the two of you have a good connection and she could possibly be romantically interested in you, but not be wanting to make the first move. If you want to ask her out then go for it! If she would rather just be friends with you, respect her decision and continue your friendship with her, but if she is willing to date you then that's great! Sometimes, people can be quite secretive around the people they are attracted to and afraid of letting them know how they feel in case they are turned down, I am one of those people. I hope it goes well for you.
preraph Posted January 17, 2019 Posted January 17, 2019 I think it's gone on too long for anything to happen except to lose the friendship. And I think you're shyer than she is if in five years, you haven't gotten the nerve to ask her out on a date. Ask her on a freaking date already and take whatever happens like a man.
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