Have you ever broken up with someone because you didn't want to get tied down?

[cgo311055]

What happened? End result? How old were you?

[basil67]

I'm assuming we're talking a relationship here.

 

The answer is No, I haven't. I wouldn't be in a relationship with someone if I didn't want to be 'tied down'. That said, it's a handy excuse if you don't want to give an actual reason why you're ending it.

[GorillaTheater]

Not since high school, and like Basil alluded to, I'm not sure you could really call those "relationships".

[AriesDude]

I had a few situations like that.

-Was asked to choose a name for our future kids on our second date. I ran. 20

-Was asked to move in after 5 weeks and pay 100% of the rent. I ran. 21

-Got asked to pay child support for children that werent mine which i was already supporting. like 2k a month. I ran....24

 

lol i can go on but yea. It depends on what you want to see in your future man. If getting "tied down" which btw is a horrible way to look at sharing a life with someone.... if it scares you...at least be honest about it...then run. Any girl you shared a kiss with deserves that much at least.

[chillii]

Back in my 20s l was always breaking up with girls because l didn't wanna be tied down. Talking real relationships here, living together, you name it.

l was always a real restless type and there were so many girls out there l just couldn't focus on one.

l wanted to travel too and start a business and do this and do that, l got bored real easy very fast.

later though , early 30s l met my w , and right then and there l just finally felt calm for the first time ever and l finally just felt ready.

 

 

Soooo, best just go do your thing and don't get tied down yet, and sometime down the track it'll all work out when your just ready for it.

Edited January 15, 2019 by chillii

[Happy Lemming]

I was given an ultimatum by one woman I had been dating. I think we had been dating about 18 months when she said get engaged to her or leave. I left. I think I was about 23 at the time.

 

I've pretty much "ran for the door" anytime someone tried to tie me down or mentioned marriage. It happened a few times in my 30's and 40's, as well.

 

I'm 53, always been single and very happy!!

[preraph]

Not a committed relationship, but more a tacit agreement, and the guy was really nice but followed me around the house and that drove me crazy. I was mid-twenties. Also when I was about 21, a guy kind of moved in with me part-time and I did like him, but it wasn't anything conventional and not even sex. It as kind of one of those stand-offs, you know, but I had my eye on a different guy and it became problematic, as you might expect .

Edited January 16, 2019 by preraph

[mortensorchid]

All the time. I think there is something out there called biofeedback with people. The first 5-9 months you are with someone is not a true relationship, that's infatuation. Infatuation will wear off over time. And when it does, you better like that person you are with - not love, just like them. And if don't, you're in trouble. But after the first 6-9 months once it's worn off, you are in the relationship portion. It's about making choices and decisions and standing by someone in good and bad times. And, in my case, I have been with guys who don't like not being in infatuation and they dump me. And they end up rebounding to another gal who is quite trashy and keep things dramatic rather than calm and happy and confuse that with boredom.

 

Then ... The next plateau should you get past the infatuation portion would be the year and a half / two year mark. This is actually when you are fully committed to one another for the long haul. And ... Unfortunately for many, this is when it ends for a lot of people because they don't want to be in it for the long haul. And that's a shame.

 

Long term relationships are hard, all kinds of them - Love, marriage, friendship, coworker, family, sibling, parent/child, etc. Why? Because you go through so much, you both change, you both have to adjust to new circumstances or changes, etc. When those changes / challenges are met, you have to adjust and adapt to them. And sometimes, we don't. Those who constantly fail are not meant to be in long term relationships of any kind. They are unusual relationships to be sure, but they can be good ones if and when you do. Remember this as we go forth and thrash.

[Wallysbears]

Twice.

 

I was engaged twice prior to my husband.

 

Called off the first big white wedding right before invitations for the 300+ event went out.

 

Called off the second before we even got to that point.

 

They weren’t the right man.

[Wallysbears]

Ages:

 

Um...

 

24 and 30?

 

 

Rough estimates

[chillii]

Twice.

 

I was engaged twice prior to my husband.

 

Called off the first big white wedding right before invitations for the 300+ event went out.

 

Called off the second before we even got to that point.

 

They weren’t the right man.

 

 

And so did you just shut up , ran of and eloped on the 3rd wedding, that's what we did.

[Simple Logic]

Let’s just say I had an avid seasonal hobby and I ended many relationships with women who believed it was objectionable. I married the one that didn’t.