Is she interested? Do I have to make the first move?

[an0nym0us123]

So a week ago i matched with a girl on tinder, i have known her for over 10 years, and she grew up just 3 miles away.

 

I actually hooked up with her a few years ago but she is not someone i really talked to over the years. She is in her mid 20s

 

The next day she initiated contact with me, asking how i was. She mentioned a party she was going to and suggested i should go. I said id see as i had a cold.

 

We made small talk and then she dropped out of the conversation till last thursday. She replied saying sorry and she had been busy with work. She then asked what i was doing the next night. I said nothing as far as i knew. She said she had the night off. Then went on to say she needed a massage! And had i ever given one and was i any good haha!

 

I said yeah and no one had ever complained. She asked me how my love life was and i said i was single and just seeing what was about.

 

I didnt hear from her for 2 days and she then asked was i going to the party. I said i didnt feel that well ( which was true) she said okay and that was that.

 

So after a couple of days i messaged her asking what the party was like. She said great. She said she was back in the city she goes to uni in 100 miles away (she is back and forth) and then asked me had i ever had a night out there? I said yes a long time ago to which ive had no reply.

 

Im not sure what she is after , is she wanting me go on a night out with her? Is she hoping ill make the first move?

 

If it was a random stranger id have no hesitation asking. I guess im not wanting to lose face with someone i know!

 

Should i just ask her is she wanting to go out some night? Or is she not interested? Thanks

[olivetree]

She is making it so painfully obvious for you aside from holding up a sign.

She is making all of the first moves, time for you to make one too.

 

When you declined the party you should have indicated you wanted to see her when you felt better or actually set up a plan for when you were confident you would feel better.

 

Ask her out already!

[PRW]

Im not sure what she is after

She is on Tinder,...a "hookup" App. Figure it out.

Is she hoping ill make the first move?

It's kinda your job.

If it was a random stranger id have no hesitation asking. I guess im not wanting to lose face with someone i know!

No, it is because you think a woman is your GF or something similar after just the first date

Should i just ask her is she wanting to go out some night? Or is she not interested?

She is on Tinder. She "swiped right" on your profile. Why? Figure it out.

[PRW]

She then asked what i was doing the next night. I said nothing as far as i knew. She said she had the night off. Then went on to say she needed a massage! And had i ever given one and was i any good haha!

She practically asked you to come over to her place, she would lay there naked with nothing but a towel, and asked if you think you are man enough to handle the job!

[an0nym0us123]

Okay thanks! I sent her a message asking if she wants to go on a night out. We will see if/ what she replies.

[PRW]

Okay thanks! I sent her a message asking if she wants to go on a night out. We will see if/ what she replies.

It's a start.

But you should have offered a date with a specific day/time/place. Otherwise, you are only asking what she "thinks" about a date "in theory". In a case like that they usually give a real vague response or they just reject it.

[Fekenaws]

You need to stop messing around and set an exact date and time. Women lose their attraction faster than you could even bat an eye, and right now you're coming across as either not interested or very beta.

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

Im not sure what she is after , is she wanting me go on a night out with her? Is she hoping ill make the first move?

 

 

She already made the first move.....several times!

 

Glad you finally asked her out...I think it's what she wants!

[chillii]

She is making it so painfully obvious for you aside from holding up a sign.

She is making all of the first moves, time for you to make one too.

 

When you declined the party you should have indicated you wanted to see her when you felt better or actually set up a plan for when you were confident you would feel better.

 

Ask her out already!

 

 

 

 

 

 

God yeah holy Toledo that's what l was thinking.

And do you have to make the first move, your a male aren't you , yes, of course you bloody have too and besides, poor girls already done everything bar hit you over the head with a brick.