Snotty Posted January 13, 2019 Posted January 13, 2019 I have been with my girlfriend for about 2-1/2 years. She told me she has been diagnosed with depression and bi-polar disorder from 3 different therapists. The BIGGEST issue.. she has no insurance. She is self employed, and refuses to get any insurance. She blow money on things. Last year, she almost dropped 25k on a restored 68 camero. She recently bought 2 generators, 350 each, because she thought they were a good deal. They both have been sitting in her garage for 4 months. She can afford insurance, she just refuses to get any. Our relationship has been challenging to say the least. I feel she needs therapy, and some type of medication to help her. I feel this would greatly help her. I never know what version of ‘her’ i am going to be with. She can be a real sweetheart, and then there are times when i feel i am with Eeyore(donkey from winnie the pooh) She was seeing a therapist for about 10 years, and he was seeing her for free. She no longer sees him, because he has to account for his time now due to some computer system. This guy was bad for her. He was not ‘counseling’ her, he was literally telling her what to do. She has a son still at home, and in the middle of winter last year, he told her to kick him out of the house. After she did that (it was 11pm on a Saturday night) she called her therapist and told him she had done it. I asked what she was doing and she said her therapist told her she needs to kick him out, and call him(him being the therapist) and let him know she had done it. Her therapist even went so far as to dictate to her how our relationship should be. The reason she was seeing him is because he was FREE, no charges. I know this sounds selfish on my part, as it relates to our relationship, but i am concerned about her now. She has even stated sometimes her depression is so bad, she wants to commit suicide, but wont because of her boys. She has also stated she tried twice as a teenager. She is good with her money, and recently paid off her house. How do i have a conversation with her, to get insurance without coming across as an attack on her or something?
d0nnivain Posted January 13, 2019 Posted January 13, 2019 You don't tell her what to do. You express your opinion that insurance would benefit her. You show her the numbers: cost of premium vs cost of therapy & meds. Don't assume insurance is cheaper. If she won't do it, you take a long hard look at how you feel about that decision. Then you act accordingly.
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