deesw8 Posted January 13, 2019 Posted January 13, 2019 There is this guy whom I met last semester, I think he was interested, but then he might sense there isn't enough interest from my end, so I remember the last time I saw him he seems colder than the previous time. Though I noticed he tracked me on social media after that still a couple times. I mean, at this point it's uncertain what he truly feels, but he is a smart one who hides his intentions well. But I wonder in this situation where the initial spark cooled off a bit, when school starts again, how can I act or what kind of conversations would be good to start, so that, he would still see me and be reminded I may turn out to be a great date or girlfriend, yet like, obviously, it has to be subtle? Any advices guys? Thanks!
basil67 Posted January 13, 2019 Posted January 13, 2019 How often and in what situations do you meet him at Uni?
Incanada Posted January 13, 2019 Posted January 13, 2019 Sometimes dudes need a full marching band to indicate to them a girl is interested. I’d say initiate some chat with him. If sting you on social media he is curious about you. Just ask him questions, give him openings to how you might meet again later, etc.
Simple Logic Posted January 13, 2019 Posted January 13, 2019 Don’t act, just be yourself. Also do not fear striking up a conversation. 1
manfrombelow2 Posted January 13, 2019 Posted January 13, 2019 Young guys are terrified of making the first move nowadays out of fear for rejection or even worse, sexual harrasment. Can't blame them though.
Lotsgoingon Posted January 14, 2019 Posted January 14, 2019 Forget about making something happen ... Instead, just spend some time in his presence and talk to him and see if something happens. Only in the last line is it clear at all that you like him. If you like him, go meet with him ... or be somewhere where he is ... and let things happen. If doesn't act interested, there is no magic act you can or should perform. You want someone who is interested and acts on that interest. 1
d0nnivain Posted January 14, 2019 Posted January 14, 2019 You should act normal around him. Smile say hi. Ask how his break was Ask about his classes this semester. Just talk to him & make eye contact.
smackie9 Posted January 14, 2019 Posted January 14, 2019 Smile smile smile, chat with him, give full eye contact and smile some more. You will have him following you around.
stillafool Posted January 14, 2019 Posted January 14, 2019 Young guys are terrified of making the first move nowadays out of fear for rejection or even worse, sexual harrasment. Can't blame them though. I'm not seeing that from the young men I know in my life (relatives). They seem to have no problems approaching and chatting up girls they want.
PRW Posted January 14, 2019 Posted January 14, 2019 I think he was interested, but then he might sense there isn't enough interest from my end, so I remember the last time I saw him he seems colder than the previous time.That's normal. Nothing to worry about. I mean, at this point it's uncertain what he truly feels, but he is a smart one who hides his intentions well.That is a good thing. He seems "centered" and exhibits self-control. That is a rare and valuable trait now days. But I wonder in this situation where the initial spark cooled off a bit, when school starts again, how can I act or what kind of conversations would be good to start, Just talk about whatever you feel you can talk about with excitement. Excitement is contagious, and it will show you if he can be a good listener. so that, he would still see me and be reminded I may turn out to be a great date or girlfriend, yet like, obviously, it has to be subtle?Don't worry about it. You handle the above correctly,...and if it is a good match,...the rest of that will just take care of itself. 1
Fekenaws Posted January 14, 2019 Posted January 14, 2019 If you like him just be yourself and talk to him a lot and show interest, it's really that simple. He'll bite or he won't
Author deesw8 Posted January 26, 2019 Author Posted January 26, 2019 That's normal. Nothing to worry about. That is a good thing. He seems "centered" and exhibits self-control. That is a rare and valuable trait now days. Just talk about whatever you feel you can talk about with excitement. Excitement is contagious, and it will show you if he can be a good listener. Don't worry about it. You handle the above correctly,...and if it is a good match,...the rest of that will just take care of itself. Ok- so finally I did see him at an event, I saw that in the corner of my eye he looked my way a couple of times, while he was talking with other people he was with..it was quite crowded. I was talking with others as well. I then noticed when I left the room, and headed for the elevator, he happened to be already there with his friends, and I was ready to like maybe smile and stuff, except he seems to me, on purpose look up to the ceiling thinking about something, and then the elevator door opened and he headed in with his friend, and we never were able to make eye contact even. I'm a bit lost though, cuz it's confusing when I know he looked my way and long too, while he was talking with others, but then, if he did notice, why would he pretend like he didn't see me.
PRW Posted January 26, 2019 Posted January 26, 2019 You are making too much out of every little thing you see. It is your job to show interest. It is his job to do something about it. 2
Lotsgoingon Posted January 26, 2019 Posted January 26, 2019 Young guys are terrified of making the first move nowadays out of fear for rejection or even worse, sexual harrasment. Can't blame them though. This is absolutely NOT happening--and never will happen.
Author deesw8 Posted January 27, 2019 Author Posted January 27, 2019 You are making too much out of every little thing you see. It is your job to show interest. It is his job to do something about it. Thanks for bringing this all into clarity. Now maybe still early to tell whether he will do something about it. In any case, I don't think I should if next time we run into each other, be too warm up to him, right? I already feel a bit discouraged, and to be frank I think objectively I can do better than him, and maybe I should at least try to meet other guys in the mean time to get some proper perspective on this?
smackie9 Posted January 27, 2019 Posted January 27, 2019 When he was staring at you, you should have turned around real quick and winked at him. There is something there is he can't help himself to look at you.
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