MivoUK Posted January 12, 2019 Posted January 12, 2019 My feelings for her developed rather slowly but hit an all time peak recently. Just to point out these are not “man she’s hot” feelings I actually do care and love her personality. I decided to keep quiet about it all. Until last week, I was shearing a bedroom with her best friend as we was on a business trip. And her best friend actually caught me looking at a picture of her on my phone for a good 10 minutes while I was in bed lol. She called an instant discussion and was super shocked. Her words was “I thought it was me you would have been looking at, not her”. She said I can tell you what she will be like if you ask her out. She said that she’d likely cry as she just doesn’t see me in that way. This was coming from her friend. She promised that she wouldn’t tell her but I know it’s literally just a matter of time before she finds out. What to do from here? Should I take her friends advice that she just doesn’t see me in that way and leave it? Should I tell her straight up before it all comes out in the office?
preraph Posted January 12, 2019 Posted January 12, 2019 Honestly I wouldn't say or do anything and I wouldn't make up my mind whether to believe her or not. It's a very strange comment that she said she thought you'd be thinking about her instead, so whether what she said is true you don't know. But I will say that if the one you like is best friends with the ones you shared the room with then she probably knows if the one you shared the room with has a crush on you and if so, she probably wouldn't get in the middle of that anyway. but rather than take it any further and make it a thing and buy into the drama, you should just keep acting the way you're acting. you shouldn't say anything to either one of them about the subject again. if you don't even acknowledge it then that one you shared the room with it will just be her word against yours and if there is any competition between the two of them, the one you like may be inclined towards not believing her friend. also if the one you shared the room with actually does have some interest in you, she may not even want to tell the one you like that you were looking at her picture for fear of encouraging her. I would say you are in a mess now and your best strategy is to not ever discuss it with either one of them again. Don't let them put you in the middle. If it comes up again just roll your eyes and tell that one you shared the room with that she's making a mountain out of a molehill. Deny deny deny minimize minimize minimize and then refuse to discuss it.
AriesDude Posted January 12, 2019 Posted January 12, 2019 Until last week, I was shearing a bedroom with her best friend please dont shear bedrooms....enough sheep are violated to make that blanket and stuff you are sleeping on.... lol funny stuff aside...you are right, she will find out. women have amazing intuition, sometime, not saying you can't trust your friend but would be better to tell her yourself. Whether or not you take your time doing it is your choice though. My advice would be to do it soon though so if the friend is right, you find out sooner and can start moving on. Dont hold it against her if she doesnt feel the same way hey. Good luck man....poor beds :lmao: 1
PRW Posted January 12, 2019 Posted January 12, 2019 Everything about this is just "messed up". 1. You think you are in love with someone you aren't and never have dated. 2. You are sharing the bed with her BF 3. Staring at her picture for 10 minutes while in bed 4. The BF thought you were looking at a picture of her for 10 minutes in bed Sounds like High School drama. The only thing said that makes sense is that the woman of your focus would not be interested in you romantically, of that I am sure is true. None of this is going anywhere or will amount to anything.
emeraldgreen Posted January 13, 2019 Posted January 13, 2019 I would have told the friend to show me something that's not in a photo and then banged her. It sounded like she was up for it.
Author MivoUK Posted January 13, 2019 Author Posted January 13, 2019 please dont shear bedrooms....enough sheep are violated to make that blanket and stuff you are sleeping on.... lol funny stuff aside...you are right, she will find out. women have amazing intuition, sometime, not saying you can't trust your friend but would be better to tell her yourself. Whether or not you take your time doing it is your choice though. My advice would be to do it soon though so if the friend is right, you find out sooner and can start moving on. Dont hold it against her if she doesnt feel the same way hey. Good luck man....poor beds :lmao: I don't know man. This has all moved my time line up much sooner than planned. I did intend to ask this girl out but not right now. My plan was to get my next promotion at work first (Actually become an asset to the company) first then ask her out after getting to know each other better and feeling the situation out over several months. Now I'm just thinking that i don't have much to lose and may aswell just ask her out. Because my little secret is well and truely out now? So what difference does it really make? Two possible scenarios... Me: hey, xxxx I've kind of liked you for a while, i was just wondering if you'd like to get lunch sometime and maybe get to know each other a little better? VS Her Friend: Hey xxxx, Can you believe it, i caught xxxx looking at a picture of you for 10 minutes when he was in bed! How weird right? Out of the two scenarios above, the first one, asking her out seems like it would end better even if she refused. Because if she hears something like above from her friend then its just going to send weirdo alarm bells ringing lol. Where at least if i ask her out, even if she refuses it'd likelly just be a confidence booster for her. Honestly why i would like her to say yes and ask her out, its not my main concern right now. This thread was more for general advice on how best to handle this situation. Everything about this is just "messed up". 1. You think you are in love with someone you aren't and never have dated. 2. You are sharing the bed with her BF 3. Staring at her picture for 10 minutes while in bed 4. The BF thought you were looking at a picture of her for 10 minutes in bed Sounds like High School drama. The only thing said that makes sense is that the woman of your focus would not be interested in you romantically, of that I am sure is true. None of this is going anywhere or will amount to anything. Woah you make a lot of assumptions. When did i state that i was in love with this lady? I'm fully aware that I'm not in love with her. I said that i LOVED her personality not actually in love with her. Its basically a phigure of speech, a way at explaining that you super like something, in this case her personality. Again when did i say that i shared the bed with her best friend? I shared the room with her best friend and a couple of other colleagues, not the bed. This is a standard thing on business trips with the job that I'm in. I've also shared rooms with most of my other colleagues including the girl that i like (Its not weird its just how we keep costs down and maximize profits). I'm Pretty sure she finds me attractive... Now i ain't saying that she wants a relationship or anything like that with me I'm just saying that i think she does find me attractive. Dating/Relationship is an entirely different thing.
PRW Posted January 13, 2019 Posted January 13, 2019 Woah you make a lot of assumptions. When did i state that i was in love with this lady?You said:Just to point out these are not “man she’s hot” feelings I actually do care and love her personality...and you were staring at her picture for 10 minutes in bed,...and then there is the title of the thread. Again when did i say that i shared the bed with her best friend? I shared the room with her best friend and a couple of other colleagues, not the bed.You didn't specify it that accurately in the original post. You said:I was shearing a bedroom with her best friend as we was on a business tripI'm Pretty sure she finds me attractive... Now i ain't saying that she wants a relationship or anything like that with me I'm just saying that i think she does find me attractive. Dating/Relationship is an entirely different thing.And dating, and relationships, are an entirely different thing. You haven't got to the Date part of it yet. You need to get there,...and don't treat it like you are in a relationship when you do.
Versacehottie Posted January 13, 2019 Posted January 13, 2019 I think your co-worker is interfering because she has her OWN agenda. I would ignore what she said and do what you want. Idk if that will guarantee success with the one you like but it makes NO sense to have another person dictate what happens in your love life. *note: if the girls are friends, the one you like may stay away from you (at least initially) even if she does like you for girl code reasons. but whatever, still proceed, do you. 1
JuneL Posted January 13, 2019 Posted January 13, 2019 My guess is this other girl (the best friend) has a crush on you and she’s jealous. Try to distance yourself from this drama queen. 1
ZA Dater Posted January 13, 2019 Posted January 13, 2019 Not sure dating co workers is a great idea...in fact probably a very bad idea but good luck nonetheless!
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