flsgirl Posted September 16, 2005 Posted September 16, 2005 I can't believe I'm posting this because I know I'll just get reprimended. I often use this forum as a blog to get some things off my chest because I can't talk about it with any of my friends. So be gentle. Anyway, I swear I'm a masochist... I always do this to myself. The internet is amazing but it also gives you more info than you want to know. I was checking my ex's profile on one of those social networking web sites. Yeah, STUPID! Of course pictures of him and his new girlfriend are plastered everywhere with comments about how great their sex life is. I go for a months without having contact with him nor knowing what he's even doing then when I'm convinced I'm over it and check this web site and I get upset again. And no, I'm not a stalker. I'm quite the opposite. After a breakup I made sure I wouldn't run into him and would take different routes to work just so I wouldn't have to drive by his house or work. I guess I got what I deserved. It's the whole curiosity kills the cat thing. I have to stop torturing myself with this.
sunaddict1 Posted September 16, 2005 Posted September 16, 2005 i know what you mean girl! i did the same thing! I used to check my ex's voice mails....it killed me inside when i would hear girls on there. i know that it will only make it harder on me...but i did it anyway. thank god he finally got a new phone and code. your just a human GIRL! dont hate yourself...just try not to do it! i know it is hard...everything in life is hard! plus you are hoping to not find anything! there will never NOT be anything there! stay strong and move on!!!!!!!! easier said then done!
RainyDayWoman Posted September 16, 2005 Posted September 16, 2005 i don't know that you should go so far as to say you are sabotaging yourself. i think what you're doing is natural, everyone is curious about things that used to be familiar. you just have to find a way to say to yourself, knowing won't change a thing. you will get to a point that you will no longer care, and you will move on. it's not something that you can truthfully do until you are ready to let go for good. but you can work on it by exercising some restraint and just saying "no. no more." good luck.
ReluctantRomeo Posted September 16, 2005 Posted September 16, 2005 I was checking my ex's profile on one of those social networking web sites. Yeah, STUPID! Of course pictures of him and his new girlfriend are plastered everywhere with comments about how great their sex life is. Well, I agree with Rainy that such curiosity is natural, provided it stays within tolerable limits. The trick is to try to allow but limit it, and allow yourself to move on.
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