iamfrustrated Posted January 12, 2019 Posted January 12, 2019 I recently went to a 5 day conference type event and met a girl I really liked there. For the first 3 days, we really developed a strong connection. On day 3 in the evening when we had free time, we hung out with a couple other friends. That night I asked for her number over groupme and asked if she wanted to get lunch when we were back as school (we attend the same university) and she said sure. I was very happy about this. The next day though, things seemed to be different and she seemed to be acting more distant and estranged. I texted her to ask if she was okay because she seemed off and she responded with "i'm fine". And this occurred for the final (day 5) as well. So I am quite confused as to where I stand, I texted her to confirm/schedule lunch plans after returning from the conference but received no response. I am not sure what happened in between that night and the next day that caused this and would love some clarity if anyone has any idea.
PRW Posted January 12, 2019 Posted January 12, 2019 Over groupme? Why didn't you make a date in person? This makes you look timid. This is not a deal breaker but you look a lot better to her asking in person. I texted her to ask if she was okay because she seemed off and she responded with "i'm fine".Never ask a woman that stuff!! That makes you look insecure and that you are over-focused on "how she feels". It is no big mystery that her emotions chilled off after a nights sleep and that she isn't interested. She is trying to act "normal" while at the same time trying to not encourage you to "cling & chase", and the fact that you asked her this tells her she failed in that, which embarrasses her. Making someone feel embarrassed never wins them over. Confirming plans shows a lack of confidence. If I make plans, I just show up. If I get stood up then I got my answer. Her not responding to the confirmation is a very typical way that women decline the offer in a situation like that. You are expected by her to understand what that means. To avoid this in the future, never agree to a "maybe date" and never agree to making a confirmation call. The date needs to have a specific time and place. Then you just show up (because you always keep your word, right?). If she calls to confirm with you, then you respond with "Yep! I'll be there. See ya there!". If you get stood up then have a nice meal and go find something fun to do with friends or go alone.
smackie9 Posted January 12, 2019 Posted January 12, 2019 She was just being buddy buddy with you, not romantically interested. As soon as you asked her out, she realized you were interested, and she was not. I have met plenty of guys that I got along with famously, but never had any attraction towards them.
manfrombelow2 Posted January 12, 2019 Posted January 12, 2019 You acted too interested way too soon, and that killed the vibe. You should have hanged out and talked with many other women at the conference instead of her only. So, what seemed illogical to you at first (what happened and why she changed her mood so quickly around me?) now is logical again. So, take this as a lesson learned: do not act too interested into a woman, especially someone you have just met.
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