She Feels Rejected: Why?

[allansilver]

:lmao: you're a bully wannabee but hilarious. Keep having fun here... until LS kicks you.

 

Go stick your nose in a Simone DeBeauvoir tome and act like you understand it.

 

 

Way too much work to have every woman you encounter agree with your perspective and have a temper that is acceptable to you.

 

Sure, that's fair. My confidence has been ramping up to a ridiculous degree. It's time to tone it down some.

[Garcon1986]

In your own words,

I excuse myself from the denny's trip. Girl A says "you can't do everything at once Allan." I give her a hug, but she is not feeling the hug.

 

She clearly expressed her discomfort with you. It's your adult right to date lots of women, but you also told me you have a steady girlfriend in

 

Again, I have what I want. I'm dating the girl I want to. You don't know how to read. Use your eyes.

 

I've got my glasses on as I am reading this, just to make sure I'm reading it clearly. The fact here is that only a certain crowd of women will find that acceptable. You'll have to leave the women alone that find this dating philosophy unacceptable.

[Garcon1986]

So I have no objection to your dating approach in summary.

Just remember that some women in your social circle will object to it.

[allansilver]

Man, if you have to come in here asking "why did my rejection make this girl feel rejected" - you don't have much room to criticize the insight and advice you receive, or to be offended by it.

 

Or did you just come here to humblebrag about how frustrating it is to have ALL the girls trying to get with you?

 

If you want to be a player, be a player. Own it, and accept the fallout when it happens. You don't get to choose how your behavior makes other people feel. If you don't want situations like this to happen again (and again and again and again), you'd be wise to listen to what everyone is telling you about your apparent lack of social calibration.

 

Insulting the people you came to ask for advice isn't going to help you... unless putting other people down is your go-to self-esteem booster and you don't actually care about other people's feelings or perceptions of you, or that behavior like this will significantly reduce your odds of success - because you actually thrive on the drama of subtly playing groups of women against each other?

 

No, I don't get to choose other's response.

 

Then again, following my judgment I got the girl I wanted and enjoyed the rest of my night. I can't make everyone happy. It's other people's jobs to make themselves happy.

 

I would hope that people would be mature enough to accept rejection without bitterness but some people aren't like that and it's up to me to be cool with that if they don't. That doesn't mean I won't still be nice and cordial to them. Or just ignore them.

 

I'm naturally an extrovert so I don't understand introverts that well.

 

It's also up to you guys to understand that not everyone is the same. Some people generate average levels, some below average others well above average.