zawadi16 Posted January 12, 2019 Posted January 12, 2019 So I need an outsider's perspective... I've been crushing on this guy for a few months and I thought he felt the same way. We were all out with a group of friends earlier tonight and he's sitting next to me. A couple gets in the middle of the floor and starts dancing so we both are recording it. As I'm sitting next to him he posts the video of the couple dancing on his social media (which is public by the way) with the caption, "I wish I had someone I could dance with". Did he just friend zone me? He used to like some of my pictures, but now he doesn't like any of mine even though I like all of his. He hasn't like any of my pictures in months. However, right after he stopped liking my pictures his best friend (we're all in the same circle of friends) started liking every picture that I've posted in the last few months. Am I being friend zoned? We're all 24 by the way.
Leojax Posted January 12, 2019 Posted January 12, 2019 Sorry OP, I think he's friend zoning you :/ Him not liking your pictures in months but his friend liking all of yours? Seems like his friend is the one who is interested...
GinON Posted January 12, 2019 Posted January 12, 2019 24, ya don’t say? Have you spoken to the person you were standing next to or are you basing your thoughts on the digital presence only? Why not go and ask him, or smack him in the ass and say, “I’m right here, jerk!” Have you tried walking up to people lately and touching one of us? I am sorry but I read your post and thought it was such a caricature of the digitally overrun age. I couldn’t resist teasing you a bit here but you are missing the point of dating if you’re basing your feelings and experience on Facebook likes. 1
Leojax Posted January 12, 2019 Posted January 12, 2019 (edited) 24, ya don’t say? Have you spoken to the person you were standing next to or are you basing your thoughts on the digital presence only? Why not go and ask him, or smack him in the ass and say, “I’m right here, jerk!” Have you tried walking up to people lately and touching one of us? I am sorry but I read your post and thought it was such a caricature of the digitally overrun age. I couldn’t resist teasing you a bit here but you are missing the point of dating if you’re basing your feelings and experience on Facebook likes. What this guy did with his caption is the equivalent of girl saying "I wish I could find a good guy" and he's sitting right there. Plus, if I like a girl, heck even if we're just having sex, my best friend would not like all of her pictures. It seems the best friend is interested in her. He was sitting next to her, but was on his phone posting about wishing he had someone to dance with instead of dancing with her. That is pretty clear sign. Either he was shy or not interested. Edited January 12, 2019 by Leojax 1
GinON Posted January 12, 2019 Posted January 12, 2019 But she was interested in him and did what? Like his posts? Did she say anything or stare at him or bump into him a lot? I keep reading posts from people that are interpreting digital tea leaves. I am so not going to be useful to my kids in 10 years when they start dating...
Leojax Posted January 12, 2019 Posted January 12, 2019 But she was interested in him and did what? Like his posts? Did she say anything or stare at him or bump into him a lot? I keep reading posts from people that are interpreting digital tea leaves. I am so not going to be useful to my kids in 10 years when they start dating... Yea, she liked his post. That's some kind of sign. On it it's own liking or not liking someone's pictures mean nothing. However, not liking her pictures while OP continuously likes his for months and him posting he would like to dance with someone while he's sitting next to her doesn't scream I'm interested. I'm with a girl and enjoying her company I'm not posting on social media while she's sitting right next to me...
LenaBean94 Posted January 12, 2019 Posted January 12, 2019 Yea, she liked his post. That's some kind of sign. On it it's own liking or not liking someone's pictures mean nothing. However, not liking her pictures while OP continuously likes his for months and him posting he would like to dance with someone while he's sitting next to her doesn't scream I'm interested. I'm with a girl and enjoying her company I'm not posting on social media while she's sitting right next to me... I have to agree. On its own, him not liking pictures means nothing. OP's crush going from liking her pictures to nothing at all for months, while his best friend starts liking her pictures does mean something. It's just the change in behavior that raises an eyebrow. From the little bit of information provided I don't think he's really interested.
allansilver Posted January 12, 2019 Posted January 12, 2019 So I need an outsider's perspective... I've been crushing on this guy for a few months and I thought he felt the same way. We were all out with a group of friends earlier tonight and he's sitting next to me. A couple gets in the middle of the floor and starts dancing so we both are recording it. As I'm sitting next to him he posts the video of the couple dancing on his social media (which is public by the way) with the caption, "I wish I had someone I could dance with". Did he just friend zone me? He used to like some of my pictures, but now he doesn't like any of mine even though I like all of his. He hasn't like any of my pictures in months. However, right after he stopped liking my pictures his best friend (we're all in the same circle of friends) started liking every picture that I've posted in the last few months. Am I being friend zoned? We're all 24 by the way. You're reading waaaaay too much into this. It's more like you just friendzoned yourself by overanalyzing. Even if he did, does it really matter? Would you want to chase a man who wasn't that into you? There must be other men who you have some attraction to.
Author zawadi16 Posted January 12, 2019 Author Posted January 12, 2019 You're reading waaaaay too much into this. It's more like you just friendzoned yourself by overanalyzing. Even if he did, does it really matter? Would you want to chase a man who wasn't that into you? There must be other men who you have some attraction to. Thanks. As Lenabean said it's his change his behavior. He used to like my things here and there, but now nothing at all, and it's been that way for months. His best friend then started liking every last one of my pictures is making me think he's got the crush on me and my crush stopped so that he could make way for his friend. 1
smackie9 Posted January 12, 2019 Posted January 12, 2019 His buddy probably told him the he liked you so he backed off for his friend. OR, Maybe he did like you at one time, but since you probably didn't touch, flirt or suggest one on one time alone, he was thinking you weren't too into him....he simply gave up. It's possible his comment with that video was a last ditch effort for you to come out of hiding and tell him how you feel. Liking someone's post means jack squat. You have to do something in their presence to show your interest. Too many guys don't have the balz to ask a girl out, so it's up to you to make it known. On the other hand wouldn't you rather meet someone that had confidence? Enough to ask you out on a date? 1
Author zawadi16 Posted January 12, 2019 Author Posted January 12, 2019 His buddy probably told him the he liked you so he backed off for his friend. OR, Maybe he did like you at one time, but since you probably didn't touch, flirt or suggest one on one time alone, he was thinking you weren't too into him....he simply gave up. It's possible his comment with that video was a last ditch effort for you to come out of hiding and tell him how you feel. Liking someone's post means jack squat. You have to do something in their presence to show your interest. Too many guys don't have the balz to ask a girl out, so it's up to you to make it known. On the other hand wouldn't you rather meet someone that had confidence? Enough to ask you out on a date? Well it's not that he doesn't have the balls to ask women out. I was at party with him a while back and I know he had pursued his last interest and kissed her the same night they first met. Telling her how beautiful she was, etc., and just showering her with compliments the first time they met so he has balls. Then days later after he made the "I want someone to dance with comment" he posted a selfie in a suit with the caption, "I can't think of one, y'all come up with one". Just doesn't seem like the behavior of someone who is interested if they're still trying to garner attention from his 900 followers, which 90% of them are women.
smackie9 Posted January 12, 2019 Posted January 12, 2019 Then the comment was meant for someone else obviously. And he never had any real interest in you or he would be pawing all over you, like he does with other women...so yes it's looking like friend zoning. He's a womanizer.....spreading it out to be chased by many. 1
allansilver Posted January 12, 2019 Posted January 12, 2019 Thanks. As Lenabean said it's his change his behavior. He used to like my things here and there, but now nothing at all, and it's been that way for months. His best friend then started liking every last one of my pictures is making me think he's got the crush on me and my crush stopped so that he could make way for his friend. Like a lot of people, you are paying too much attention to social media. That's the point I was trying to make in my previous post. Go on a social media fast for a week. You will live. Ignore it completely. Or try weaning yourself off it by going one day without it. The more difficult either task is for you the stronger your degree of addiction. I just downloaded a social media app a few days ago. The first time I used it, it sapped 4 hours of my day. I don't use it now. I didn't delete it but I stopped using it. Give yourself the option of using social media at some point in the future. But try ignoring it completely for one day. That's the more significant problem.
allansilver Posted January 12, 2019 Posted January 12, 2019 Then the comment was meant for someone else obviously. And he never had any real interest in you or he would be pawing all over you, like he does with other women...so yes it's looking like friend zoning. He's a womanizer.....spreading it out to be chased by many. The man is always evil. Brilliant analysis.
Emmafive Posted January 12, 2019 Posted January 12, 2019 Then the comment was meant for someone else obviously. And he never had any real interest in you or he would be pawing all over you, like he does with other women...so yes it's looking like friend zoning. He's a womanizer.....spreading it out to be chased by many. Why are you saying he's a womanizer?
Author zawadi16 Posted January 12, 2019 Author Posted January 12, 2019 Then the comment was meant for someone else obviously. And he never had any real interest in you or he would be pawing all over you, like he does with other women...so yes it's looking like friend zoning. He's a womanizer.....spreading it out to be chased by many. So you're saying if he was interested he wouldn't have had to make that post (if it was directed towards me) about wanting to dance with someone because his previous behavior shows that he doesn't have a problem making a move on someone?
smackie9 Posted January 14, 2019 Posted January 14, 2019 Why are you twisting things. You feed me more information, which tells me that comment maybe directed at one of his many followers (87% of 900 are women)....AND when he is interested in someone, he has ballz to pursue her. He hasn't done that with you, so there is your proof. He treats you like a buddy not a lover.
stillafool Posted January 14, 2019 Posted January 14, 2019 It's clear he isn't interested in you but his friend is. Go out with the friend. This guy was never interested.
Fekenaws Posted January 14, 2019 Posted January 14, 2019 Sounds like you're friend zoned to me personally, but only because of his inaction and the post he made, not because of the likes. FB likes mean absolutely nothing, I have Exes who still like my posts but I haven't seen or spoken to them in months. I have girls I'm in the friend zone who still like my posts even though I cut off contact. A like is just a like, that's it. I'd ask him out, rejection sucks but you save sooooooooo much time in the long run that you could potentially be using to find someone who is interested.
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