Insoc Posted January 11, 2019 Posted January 11, 2019 So I have been talking to this woman via a long distance thing, she likes to chat and we don't talk daily, also has a bad habit of ghosting which I return the favor on. Well after 2 days of ghosting, she sent a single text "I love you", I have not responded because 1) we never met 2) we haven't been talking too long maybe a month but not daily as of the past 3 weeks or so, spoke on the phone a few times. I'm planning on visiting the city she lives in next week, we are suppose to meet in person, but I don't know if we will if she is waiting for me to say "I love you" back. I can't say it, because well I don't love her, but I like her she seems cool and maybe someone I could develop something with. Maybe to her "Love" is puppy love or just infatuation, I have no clue? I mean she is not texting me daily or calling me daily like she was the first week or so, we had some misunderstandings and I told her to slow down, so she might be keeping distance to not piss me off, dunno? How should I handle this one? I don't really get the impression she "loves me" based on how she is acting, but I want to meet her at least to see if she is being overly cautious and it was just a slip. Love takes time anyways, at least true love there is a that love you had when you were a teenager lol.
Happy Lemming Posted January 11, 2019 Posted January 11, 2019 Run... Run Away... Run Fast... Run Hard... 4
Author Insoc Posted January 11, 2019 Author Posted January 11, 2019 Run... Run Away... Run Fast... Run Hard... That's what I was thinking, I think she is also playing games with me because it's totally out of her character so it's confusing me lol!
Happy Lemming Posted January 11, 2019 Posted January 11, 2019 That's what I was thinking, I think she is also playing games with me because it's totally out of her character so it's confusing me lol! If she said it and it slipped out, like she was used to saying it to an old partner the way we say "good morning" or something like that, but that is not the case. She texted it. She took the time to deliberately tap each key to make up the words, so there was no slip. I'm thinking some type of scam. I once got an "I love you" text from a female business acquaintance. We were friends, as well, but had never dated. When I asked her to explain herself, she told me she loved me, the way Jesus loves me. I let it drop, but was careful not to be too friendly in the future when we interacted.
GinON Posted January 11, 2019 Posted January 11, 2019 Block block block. If you cant, get a new profile and number. YIKES!
amaysngrace Posted January 11, 2019 Posted January 11, 2019 She seems a little bit crazy. I’d meet her just once. The sex may be worth the trip.
Happy Lemming Posted January 11, 2019 Posted January 11, 2019 The sex may be worth the trip. Isn't that what Travis Alexander told his friends when they warned him about Jodi Arias.
amaysngrace Posted January 11, 2019 Posted January 11, 2019 Isn't that what Travis Alexander told his friends when they warned him about Jodi Arias. Could be. I’m not in their friend group. 1
preraph Posted January 11, 2019 Posted January 11, 2019 I would respond to her saying I Love you by getting real and saying, I hope you're kidding since we haven't even met. It gives her an out. Kind of forces her to take it back. 1
edgygirl Posted January 11, 2019 Posted January 11, 2019 Maybe it was a text for her daughter/friend and got to you by mistake. I do have a couple of girl friends I tell I love you platonically from time to time. I also say that to a few members of my family. Who hasn't sent a text message to the wrong person?
BaileyB Posted January 11, 2019 Posted January 11, 2019 Well if that isn't a red flag, I don't know what is... 1
Happy Lemming Posted January 11, 2019 Posted January 11, 2019 Could be. I’m not in their friend group. One of Travis' friends actually told him "I'm worried we are going to find you cut up in Jodi's freezer" He wasn't too far off.
Gretchen12 Posted January 11, 2019 Posted January 11, 2019 I'd respond with "... I see dead people." Hey! Two can play this game. 1
Author Insoc Posted January 11, 2019 Author Posted January 11, 2019 If she said it and it slipped out, like she was used to saying it to an old partner the way we say "good morning" or something like that, but that is not the case. She texted it. She took the time to deliberately tap each key to make up the words, so there was no slip. I'm thinking some type of scam. I once got an "I love you" text from a female business acquaintance. We were friends, as well, but had never dated. When I asked her to explain herself, she told me she loved me, the way Jesus loves me. I let it drop, but was careful not to be too friendly in the future when we interacted. She is legit or she is one real good Catfish, I scoped her out already. All info checks out along with what she told me, but she might be a C**ktease for all I know? We had some disagreements due to her moving to fast (sexting) and too much texting, a week went by where we didn't talk, then we reconnected. There might be more to the story than I know, infatuation or some abuse as a child? I have no clue. I thought it was of slip or test too, to see how I would respond.
Author Insoc Posted January 11, 2019 Author Posted January 11, 2019 She seems a little bit crazy. I’d meet her just once. The sex may be worth the trip. Oh she mentioned the Sex thing multiple times, but whether it's all talk and she is just a classic c**ktease is the question. I also worry about the Travis thing, totally forgot that one yikes! She is kinda pissed off at me because I told her to slow down and lay off the sexting, so she doesn't message me as much anymore, sorta hurt her feelings as it seems she really had her head wrapped around sexting 2 days after we met on Match, was too much too soon for me, I had to pull the plug, even after the nude pics came, she is a lot younger than me too and is very attractive and well hot, I verified she is real via FB and her family's FB but there is something about her I just don't know yet. I'll sort it out on the trip, and watch out for the Ginzu to the back thing lol. 1
Highndry Posted January 11, 2019 Posted January 11, 2019 This isn't normal by any stretch. Even if you two had been talking for months and months it wouldn't be, since you have never met in person. The fact that you say you don't even talk a lot, and it's only been a month, is a huge red flag. I remember getting love-bombed by a gal years ago. Turns out she was whacko with Histrionic or something. I never got involved with her, but the brief interaction was enough to scare me off.
Author Insoc Posted January 11, 2019 Author Posted January 11, 2019 Maybe it was a text for her daughter/friend and got to you by mistake. I do have a couple of girl friends I tell I love you platonically from time to time. I also say that to a few members of my family. Who hasn't sent a text message to the wrong person? Or maybe it was a text to one of the many guy's she is talking to and sent it to me instead? Who knows in this say and age, she is addicted to Match and logging all day long, maybe she likes multiple men chasing her and having all the attention? I'm not the priority anymore but she knows I'm coming to her city, so she got excited lol.
Author Insoc Posted January 11, 2019 Author Posted January 11, 2019 This isn't normal by any stretch. Even if you two had been talking for months and months it wouldn't be, since you have never met in person. The fact that you say you don't even talk a lot, and it's only been a month, is a huge red flag. I remember getting love-bombed by a gal years ago. Turns out she was whacko with Histrionic or something. I never got involved with her, but the brief interaction was enough to scare me off. I know but nothing is normal with this woman, she was into me like white on rice when we first met, came on strong and was sexting 2 days later, sent lot's of nudes, is very attractive and well hot to be honest, but I think it's the classic c**ktease case here, I had these before or worse yet the best Catfish I ever had the pleasure of talking to, possibly a roomate of this woman posing as her and knows a lot of details on the person in the pics. I guess I just want to see if she wants to meet, to put it to rest, in a public place of course, then I can disappear into the crowd if she is not show she say's she is, the comment thing I'll asked her about to her face, because I hate texting.
Art Anderson Posted January 11, 2019 Posted January 11, 2019 Or maybe it was a text to one of the many guy's she is talking to and sent it to me instead? Who knows in this say and age, she is addicted to Match and logging all day long, maybe she likes multiple men chasing her and having all the attention? I'm not the priority anymore but she knows I'm coming to her city, so she got excited lol. Ever see the Jim Carrey movie, "Cable Guy"? The faster they run at your door, the harder and further they bounce off. That's the short advice. It doesn't sound like you're fooling yourself that her feelings are legit or the intensity is going to last long, so if you're up for a chance for a ride on a crazy train and you've registered a DNA sample in case we don't hear from you again, enjoy. Then get the hell out of Dodge, or where ever she lives. Experience after experience tells me that if you don't bail within the month, she certainly will so it's not like you're going to be hurting anyone's feelings or even making it awkward.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 11, 2019 Posted January 11, 2019 With everything you have written here about her, I can't fathom why you'd bother meeting her. There is already drama and you have never met this person. What does that tell you?
stamatia Posted January 11, 2019 Posted January 11, 2019 Run... Run Away... Run Fast... Run Hard... Absolutely this.
sabaton Posted January 11, 2019 Posted January 11, 2019 So I have been talking to this woman via a long distance thing, she likes to chat and we don't talk daily, also has a bad habit of ghosting which I return the favor on. Well after 2 days of ghosting, she sent a single text "I love you", I have not responded because 1) we never met 2) we haven't been talking too long maybe a month but not daily as of the past 3 weeks or so, spoke on the phone a few times. I'm planning on visiting the city she lives in next week, we are suppose to meet in person, but I don't know if we will if she is waiting for me to say "I love you" back. I can't say it, because well I don't love her, but I like her she seems cool and maybe someone I could develop something with. Maybe to her "Love" is puppy love or just infatuation, I have no clue? I mean she is not texting me daily or calling me daily like she was the first week or so, we had some misunderstandings and I told her to slow down, so she might be keeping distance to not piss me off, dunno? How should I handle this one? I don't really get the impression she "loves me" based on how she is acting, but I want to meet her at least to see if she is being overly cautious and it was just a slip. Love takes time anyways, at least true love there is a that love you had when you were a teenager lol. Why are you giving this woman attention for free are you at least getting nudes? sexting? Anything other than acting like her personal best friend and psychologist? Girls who don't want to meet up are either men pretending to be women, transexuals, or women who lied(''I'm 5'4'' and 110lbs'') when in reality they are 5'4'' and 170lbs at 30%body fat and now they're afraid the guy is not going to want them after they meet, because she's not what she said she was. Forget about this woman and go meet women in real life.
sabaton Posted January 11, 2019 Posted January 11, 2019 So when are you meeting up? They aren't going to, I bet you a 100 monopoly dollars. People who postpone meeting someone they claim to care about so much are either, married, looking for sex on the side but are too shy to make it happen, or they're pretending to be someone they are not.
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